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Constantly Misunderstood

Els

Is there a way to be understood without accidentally starting an argument or disagreement? Every time I speak up about something that’s bothered me or how I feel about  situation, it’s always thrown back in my face. I look like the bad guy when all I’m trying to do is explain how I feel… It’s very isolating 

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  • in reply to Els

    I’m late diagnosed, my wife and friends thought they knew me,  as my diagnosis sunk in and I started to explore my autistic identity, I found the same as you are finding. To make my life a bit easier I occasionally ask if something can be changed to make it more bearable. It’s often greeted with, “ you used to like that, why are you being so awkward?” I normally then go quiet to stop an argument, sometimes I just blurt out that I’m autistic and need to be accommodated or at least heard. I try to explain that I’m not the person they knew, he was someone I conjured up so I could get through life.

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