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Constantly Misunderstood

Els

Is there a way to be understood without accidentally starting an argument or disagreement? Every time I speak up about something that’s bothered me or how I feel about  situation, it’s always thrown back in my face. I look like the bad guy when all I’m trying to do is explain how I feel… It’s very isolating 

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  • If there is a way, I haven’t discovered it. 

    When I gave an opinion, I was called a ‘know all’.

    When I expressed a desire, I was called ‘selfish’/‘It’s not all about you’.

    When I kept quiet, I was told to ‘be authentic and say what you want/think’’ and ‘why can’t you be like ‘Pauline who says what she thinks?’.

    I have been told not to be so compliant.

    I don’t know how to give my opinion without people either ignoring me or getting annoyed. Like you, I find it very isolating, but nowadays, I don’t need to have the same number of human interactions as I used to, so most of the time can avoid such comments.

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  • If there is a way, I haven’t discovered it. 

    When I gave an opinion, I was called a ‘know all’.

    When I expressed a desire, I was called ‘selfish’/‘It’s not all about you’.

    When I kept quiet, I was told to ‘be authentic and say what you want/think’’ and ‘why can’t you be like ‘Pauline who says what she thinks?’.

    I have been told not to be so compliant.

    I don’t know how to give my opinion without people either ignoring me or getting annoyed. Like you, I find it very isolating, but nowadays, I don’t need to have the same number of human interactions as I used to, so most of the time can avoid such comments.

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