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Struggling with transitions? Difficulty ending calls with my partner

Tomos

I always have a hard time ending a call with my partner. Sometimes it is because I am having a nice time or because I am enjoying talking about something in particular. Other times I want to end the call because I need to do something or go to bed because it is late but have a hard time ending the call and almost sabotage myself by starting a new conversation or mentioning a new thing. This also happens when my partner needs to end the call and is harder for me because i dont want to end the call for the previously mentioned reasons.

I particularly struggle with actually hanging up and often request my partner hang up on me so i have no choice. I will ask him to hang up and then despite that I might think of something else that feels urgent in the moment to keep talking about but is actually inconsequential and is just an effort to keep talking. I feel stuck sometimes wanting to end a call but completely frozen to actually do it.

It isn't simply wanting to keep talking. I don't understand it fully myself.

I was thinking this could be to do with struggling with the transition of being on a call with him to it ending and having to change tasks.

Does anyone have any advice or similar feelings/experiences?

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  • I have a similar problem. Usually after talking to my friend for around 2 hours I'm exhausted (we stream and game) but I don't want to sound rude and say I need to leave. Thankfully my two friends know this and usually hang up first, we find a good way to do it is to end off on a joke, my friend usually says "YOUR MOM" and hangs up, and I usually say something like "SMELL YA LATER *rude word*" if I hang up (rarely).

    It's harder saying goodbye in real life though, at least for me, seriously, I can't count how many places I've had to sneak out of. (would never do this to friends, just acquaintances or at businesses)

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  • I have a similar problem. Usually after talking to my friend for around 2 hours I'm exhausted (we stream and game) but I don't want to sound rude and say I need to leave. Thankfully my two friends know this and usually hang up first, we find a good way to do it is to end off on a joke, my friend usually says "YOUR MOM" and hangs up, and I usually say something like "SMELL YA LATER *rude word*" if I hang up (rarely).

    It's harder saying goodbye in real life though, at least for me, seriously, I can't count how many places I've had to sneak out of. (would never do this to friends, just acquaintances or at businesses)

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