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Travelling further than local

Unsure

I find that a journey that is further than local to home especially if I am making it on my own causes a great deal of Anxiety.

This has been noticable particularly when it has come to visiting my children. The struggle of leaving behind my daily norm, knowing everything will continue without me, and going to a different situatiin, which is unknown but I know will be fine and lovely. 

I havent been now for several years, partly because of some health issues which gave me the perfect excuse.  But its one of those things its often easier to avoid. But at the same time be sad about.  They are unable to come to me, so not going means I dont see my children and their children.  I have a niece I've only seen once etc.

I have definately missed out because of this.  But dont know how I could ever get over this or the avoidance.  I wondered if others experience this.

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  • I very rarely travel east of Bangor, it's so busy, the roads are horrible and drivers aggressive. THere are so many people too, most of them face down in their phones taking no notice of where they're going. I find my anxiety spirals almost out of control, it can take me some days to come down from a trip east. I just don't feel safe, the nearer to England I get the less safe I feel, and yet I'm English, it dosent' matter whether I'm coming from Scotland or Wales the nearer I get to England the more anxious I become.

  • in reply to TheCatWoman

    I understand this. Driving is not a pleasure. Just added anxiety.

  • in reply to Unsure

    I didn't learn to drive until I was in my mid thirties and I'd never been a road user before, never had a bicycle and none of my family drove, in fact I'm still the only one in the famiy who drives. Ihad to stop driving for a few years, not long after I passed my test as I was getting such terrible nightmares, all night every night. I had CBT and now I can drive again, but within certain limits, I'm not sure how much the CBT helped, I can drive again, but now I have social phobia and the two sort of co-incided, I started being able to drive again, but found social situations harder and harder. I an socialise at home, just not out.

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  • in reply to Unsure

    I didn't learn to drive until I was in my mid thirties and I'd never been a road user before, never had a bicycle and none of my family drove, in fact I'm still the only one in the famiy who drives. Ihad to stop driving for a few years, not long after I passed my test as I was getting such terrible nightmares, all night every night. I had CBT and now I can drive again, but within certain limits, I'm not sure how much the CBT helped, I can drive again, but now I have social phobia and the two sort of co-incided, I started being able to drive again, but found social situations harder and harder. I an socialise at home, just not out.

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