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posymum

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I was diagnosed with autism when I was 8 and then again last year. It is something I hadn't accepted about myself until now, at which I am drowning. I don't know where to go for support and I don't know how to help myself. Everything is very new to me since I've tried very hard to be "normal" for a long time. Now that I am also a single mum, it has made things that much more difficult. It is so difficult to do daily tasks, like cooking or cleaning. I do everything for my son and then I just sit there. I am so overwhelmed with everything from the sudden sharp sounds that make me intensely angry to something simple like remembering my birthdate.

I am trying to hold it together. I am trying to finish university. I have been trying to finish university for 10 years. Things that take people 20 minutes takes me 3 hours. And interacting with people is exhausting that I really want to stay in the house, but I cannot because of my son. I have worked so hard to learn how to fix my face and when to laugh and what questions to ask and how to respond to things. I have done too well with masking that no one believes me or will help me and I don't know how to turn it off and at the same time, I am so exhausted and I want to stop. I have been copying other people for so long that I don't even know who I am. On top of this, I don't know how I'm going to support my son because I cannot keep a job or find one in the first place. I am so, so tired. Everything feels impossible and I am on the verge of screaming and crying every single day. I feel like I am going to explode..

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  • Hi, sounds overwhelming. I can relate to the ‘exploding’ feeling … when we ‘mask’, not letting our true feelings/self out can build up like a volcano. There’s a good youtube channel called ‘ADHD Chatter’; … covers Autism too and has great guests on, including Christine McGuiness who has Autism and kids with Autism. There might be some tips on there. It’s v emotional, so just a heads up there.

    I have Auadhd … no kids, I admire you for being able to deal with everything! Can barely deal with myself face with hand over mouth I think you can get free counselling through your gp surgery? I really wish you well … we’re very different ages, and pray things will improve soon re how People with Autism/ADHD are respected and Prayderstood. Re Hospital … remember you can get a ‘Hospital Passport’ drawn up … ie outlining your ‘needs’ re Autism … away from bright lights, noise, how the consultants should speak with you, etc. SoPray Hospitals have Teams who support People with Autism while in the Hospital System, speak up on your behalf etc. People keep telling me to take care of myself more (I’m a carer for someone with AutisPray … I do agree it’s important, and possible … I’m getting better at doing so, even if it’s just lighting a candle to cheer myself up! It does sound like you need a ‘pressure valve’ of some kind, somePraying just for yourself … sending positive thoughts PraySparklesHeart️

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  • Hi, sounds overwhelming. I can relate to the ‘exploding’ feeling … when we ‘mask’, not letting our true feelings/self out can build up like a volcano. There’s a good youtube channel called ‘ADHD Chatter’; … covers Autism too and has great guests on, including Christine McGuiness who has Autism and kids with Autism. There might be some tips on there. It’s v emotional, so just a heads up there.

    I have Auadhd … no kids, I admire you for being able to deal with everything! Can barely deal with myself face with hand over mouth I think you can get free counselling through your gp surgery? I really wish you well … we’re very different ages, and pray things will improve soon re how People with Autism/ADHD are respected and Prayderstood. Re Hospital … remember you can get a ‘Hospital Passport’ drawn up … ie outlining your ‘needs’ re Autism … away from bright lights, noise, how the consultants should speak with you, etc. SoPray Hospitals have Teams who support People with Autism while in the Hospital System, speak up on your behalf etc. People keep telling me to take care of myself more (I’m a carer for someone with AutisPray … I do agree it’s important, and possible … I’m getting better at doing so, even if it’s just lighting a candle to cheer myself up! It does sound like you need a ‘pressure valve’ of some kind, somePraying just for yourself … sending positive thoughts PraySparklesHeart️

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