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Surprises.

Roy

Does anyone else struggle with surprises?

My wife has surprised me with some concert tickets for later in the year. I feel mean for not reacting in the way expected. It caused me to shutdown as there were too many variables to think about. I’m then thought of as not being grateful. I very much need to examine something before it being suddenly being put on my internal calendar.

In truth I have always hated surprises, I’m supposed to look forward to the event, I will definitely be thinking about it for months, but for different reasons. Travel, parking, hotel, and food, to name a few. The thoughts will invade my brain, at the same time I’m expected to smile and seem excited. Sorry for what seems like me being ungrateful, I don’t have anyone else who might understand.

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  • That’s rather difficult and I understand some of what you are feeling because I dislike surprises.

    If the surprise was made with the best of intentions and it happened to be something that I like or could come round to the idea of liking, then I might be OK about it days or weeks after the initial surprise. If it was a surprise to a future event to which I was indifferent or disliked, then it definitely would cause me anxiety and sleepless nights.

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  • That’s rather difficult and I understand some of what you are feeling because I dislike surprises.

    If the surprise was made with the best of intentions and it happened to be something that I like or could come round to the idea of liking, then I might be OK about it days or weeks after the initial surprise. If it was a surprise to a future event to which I was indifferent or disliked, then it definitely would cause me anxiety and sleepless nights.

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