Surprises.

Does anyone else struggle with surprises?

My wife has surprised me with some concert tickets for later in the year. I feel mean for not reacting in the way expected. It caused me to shutdown as there were too many variables to think about. I’m then thought of as not being grateful. I very much need to examine something before it being suddenly being put on my internal calendar.

In truth I have always hated surprises, I’m supposed to look forward to the event, I will definitely be thinking about it for months, but for different reasons. Travel, parking, hotel, and food, to name a few. The thoughts will invade my brain, at the same time I’m expected to smile and seem excited. Sorry for what seems like me being ungrateful, I don’t have anyone else who might understand.

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  • I hate surprises. 

    When one was arranged for a special birthday, someone let on not knowing it was a surprise, but I was relieved as by the time it happened I knew the details. It hasn't happened since and it is understood that there are some things I don't enjoy socially.

    My greatest challenge though is my son who always wanted to know what presents he was getting, as he couldn't cope with surprises will suddenly say he is doing something which affects my expected day. I really struggle with uncertainty.

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  • I hate surprises. 

    When one was arranged for a special birthday, someone let on not knowing it was a surprise, but I was relieved as by the time it happened I knew the details. It hasn't happened since and it is understood that there are some things I don't enjoy socially.

    My greatest challenge though is my son who always wanted to know what presents he was getting, as he couldn't cope with surprises will suddenly say he is doing something which affects my expected day. I really struggle with uncertainty.

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