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Surprises.

Roy

Does anyone else struggle with surprises?

My wife has surprised me with some concert tickets for later in the year. I feel mean for not reacting in the way expected. It caused me to shutdown as there were too many variables to think about. I’m then thought of as not being grateful. I very much need to examine something before it being suddenly being put on my internal calendar.

In truth I have always hated surprises, I’m supposed to look forward to the event, I will definitely be thinking about it for months, but for different reasons. Travel, parking, hotel, and food, to name a few. The thoughts will invade my brain, at the same time I’m expected to smile and seem excited. Sorry for what seems like me being ungrateful, I don’t have anyone else who might understand.

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  • Roy said:
    Does anyone else struggle with surprises?

    Yes, I do, and one that involves as much as your one does, I would very much struggle with.

    Sorry this has happened Roy, even if it's from the best of intentions (which I assume it is).

    Relationships are hard for us I think.

    Funnily enough, the opposite happened for me recently.

    My husband bought a single ticket for a show in London when I thought he was buying for both of us.

    I was taken aback when he started to talk about the 'ticket' and I think he felt bad when he realised I expected to go too.

    My initial feeling was disappointment and then I really thought about it: the travel, noise, people, heat, exhaustion etc and realised that his omission was a blessing in disguise.

    Virtual hug.

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  • Roy said:
    Does anyone else struggle with surprises?

    Yes, I do, and one that involves as much as your one does, I would very much struggle with.

    Sorry this has happened Roy, even if it's from the best of intentions (which I assume it is).

    Relationships are hard for us I think.

    Funnily enough, the opposite happened for me recently.

    My husband bought a single ticket for a show in London when I thought he was buying for both of us.

    I was taken aback when he started to talk about the 'ticket' and I think he felt bad when he realised I expected to go too.

    My initial feeling was disappointment and then I really thought about it: the travel, noise, people, heat, exhaustion etc and realised that his omission was a blessing in disguise.

    Virtual hug.

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