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Surprises.

Roy

Does anyone else struggle with surprises?

My wife has surprised me with some concert tickets for later in the year. I feel mean for not reacting in the way expected. It caused me to shutdown as there were too many variables to think about. I’m then thought of as not being grateful. I very much need to examine something before it being suddenly being put on my internal calendar.

In truth I have always hated surprises, I’m supposed to look forward to the event, I will definitely be thinking about it for months, but for different reasons. Travel, parking, hotel, and food, to name a few. The thoughts will invade my brain, at the same time I’m expected to smile and seem excited. Sorry for what seems like me being ungrateful, I don’t have anyone else who might understand.

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  • Do you like theatre, have you ever expressed a wish to see this production?

    I totally understand how you feel, I'd be on the verge of a melt down if someone did that to me, I'm not a fan of surprises at the best of times, I try telling people the only difference between a surprise and a shock is how welcome it is, if it's welcome its a surprise if it isn't then its a shock. I'd have the same worries as you about where to stay, what I could eat, being surrounded by loads of people.

    I don't think you're ungrateful, but I think your wife may be a bit inconsiderate

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  • Do you like theatre, have you ever expressed a wish to see this production?

    I totally understand how you feel, I'd be on the verge of a melt down if someone did that to me, I'm not a fan of surprises at the best of times, I try telling people the only difference between a surprise and a shock is how welcome it is, if it's welcome its a surprise if it isn't then its a shock. I'd have the same worries as you about where to stay, what I could eat, being surrounded by loads of people.

    I don't think you're ungrateful, but I think your wife may be a bit inconsiderate

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