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I have been living on a high energy life that l have really enjoyed and l never viewed it has a disability.

It's my identity that l am not ashamed of it's who l am .

If l don't function like this then l would never be able to live life because the alternative would be living a life in bed and never doing nothing,it's the way that my brain works for me. I love me. With all my ups and downs.

But having a little knowledge on how to manage it better or just being mindful to other people and how my life looks like to others and when to stop.

Because l have lived a vibrant life of ADHD it has left out other parts of my live that is my own personality to not show through and then l have felt like l am broken.

I have found it hard to find work that's suitable for me , working with other people is very uncomfortable and very scary for me it feels like being closaphobic,l keep looking for the exit sign .

I was always late, got sacked, because l can't organize my life.

Tried climbing bennifits pip but was sent out a letter that said, we do not believe you, so this has caused me more damage and a deeper rejection by society.

 I also struggle with health conditions but no one will believe me.

Because everything is masked by ADHD.

But l am old now and really a diagnose isn't going to help me l spoke with a mental health worker and he said l had symptoms of ADHD and autism and did a online assessment,test.

But l am left frustrated that l have had to cope on my own, always pushing to be excepted it's been a very hard journey of emotional up and downs,what keeps me going is a determination to never give up, but the cost of living with depression and anxiety, so never give up.

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  • Many of us here came to start working out our neurodivergent (ND) journey of discovery - as older adults.  It can be that we have experienced a collection of related conditions (neurodivergent, or otherwise), plus, sometimes, one or more, mental health experiences as well.

    ND women and under-represented groups still seem to be missed identification in greater proportion until later life.

    I have a quote which rattles around my thoughts when I ponder over this topic:

    "Age cannot wither her, nor custom stale
    Her infinite variety"

    (William Shakespeare, Anthony and Cleopatra, Act II, Scene 2),

    Facets of the Egyptian Queen have be described by:

    "Cleopatra's timeless allure, magnetic charisma, and fascinating unpredictability".

    "Familiarity does not make her boring; she is so dynamic and unpredictable that she never becomes routine".

    "Cleopatra’s immortal, endlessly fascinating, untouched by time, by age—and by familiarity; she’ll continue to fascinate, because she can never really be known".

    I think that essence of being an endless enigma may give a hint of how we may be perceived by non-neurodivergent people (without education, advocacy and familiarity) on first encountering us.

    To other people, we can seem "old" for our years as youngsters, and yet, "young" for our years as older adults. 

    I am reconciled / at ease with that situation.  (I suspect; being a stereotypical "grown up" is probably wildly overrated anyway).

    However, I am still learning to fight for the right of my own inner child to be recognised, acknowledged and supported - as I slowly rediscover her, stage by stage. 

    I plan to become the type of adult - access to whom that inner child would have very much welcomed - back in the day (and also to learn how to become more visible - as that type of adult - thereby, accessible in my wider community - so that other neurodivergent people, across the age groups, can spot me and therefore, hopefully, feel more visible themselves).

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  • Many of us here came to start working out our neurodivergent (ND) journey of discovery - as older adults.  It can be that we have experienced a collection of related conditions (neurodivergent, or otherwise), plus, sometimes, one or more, mental health experiences as well.

    ND women and under-represented groups still seem to be missed identification in greater proportion until later life.

    I have a quote which rattles around my thoughts when I ponder over this topic:

    "Age cannot wither her, nor custom stale
    Her infinite variety"

    (William Shakespeare, Anthony and Cleopatra, Act II, Scene 2),

    Facets of the Egyptian Queen have be described by:

    "Cleopatra's timeless allure, magnetic charisma, and fascinating unpredictability".

    "Familiarity does not make her boring; she is so dynamic and unpredictable that she never becomes routine".

    "Cleopatra’s immortal, endlessly fascinating, untouched by time, by age—and by familiarity; she’ll continue to fascinate, because she can never really be known".

    I think that essence of being an endless enigma may give a hint of how we may be perceived by non-neurodivergent people (without education, advocacy and familiarity) on first encountering us.

    To other people, we can seem "old" for our years as youngsters, and yet, "young" for our years as older adults. 

    I am reconciled / at ease with that situation.  (I suspect; being a stereotypical "grown up" is probably wildly overrated anyway).

    However, I am still learning to fight for the right of my own inner child to be recognised, acknowledged and supported - as I slowly rediscover her, stage by stage. 

    I plan to become the type of adult - access to whom that inner child would have very much welcomed - back in the day (and also to learn how to become more visible - as that type of adult - thereby, accessible in my wider community - so that other neurodivergent people, across the age groups, can spot me and therefore, hopefully, feel more visible themselves).

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