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Control

Homebird

I have been thinking about the need to have control. I have seen it in other autistic people I have had contact with too. I have come to understand my own need for an element of control, so as much as possible is predictable. Understanding that in myself has helped me understand others who likewise need that element of control or lack of change.

Also looking at episodes of burnout, I have seen a pattern of this being linked to change or too much lack of control. I am hoping that having reasonable adjustments will help this. In respect of burnout, I have found that in the worst stage I don't have the energy to take much control, as decision making is too difficult. 

I would be interested in other's opinions on this.

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  • That's an interesting thought, I do think you are right, and I've seen this in my kids too. If it gets late and the bedtime routine needs to change -a stage skipped say, if I say this as it happens, they will rail against it and a meltdown ensues. However if I involved them and form the plan with them and ask if it's okay, they are much more able to handle routine changes as they an element of control over it.   

    For myself, if I feel uncertain about something, I feel better if I've researched it all and know the steps, so I feel I am in conrol of my situation then.

    It's a really interesting thing to think about.

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  • That's an interesting thought, I do think you are right, and I've seen this in my kids too. If it gets late and the bedtime routine needs to change -a stage skipped say, if I say this as it happens, they will rail against it and a meltdown ensues. However if I involved them and form the plan with them and ask if it's okay, they are much more able to handle routine changes as they an element of control over it.   

    For myself, if I feel uncertain about something, I feel better if I've researched it all and know the steps, so I feel I am in conrol of my situation then.

    It's a really interesting thing to think about.

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