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Control

Homebird

I have been thinking about the need to have control. I have seen it in other autistic people I have had contact with too. I have come to understand my own need for an element of control, so as much as possible is predictable. Understanding that in myself has helped me understand others who likewise need that element of control or lack of change.

Also looking at episodes of burnout, I have seen a pattern of this being linked to change or too much lack of control. I am hoping that having reasonable adjustments will help this. In respect of burnout, I have found that in the worst stage I don't have the energy to take much control, as decision making is too difficult. 

I would be interested in other's opinions on this.

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  • Got to agree with you about control with a small 'c'.

    It is the uncertainty that feeds into an autistic mind as you want to know every scenario so you think you can prepare. However the constant looping of thoughts is like going down a rabbit hole. Well for me it is.

    I would just love to have a settled life and view of the future but since my diagnosis I believe I have been discriminated by my employer and taking on the burden, both emotionally and financially, of an employment tribunal due to forced career lost.

    The impending nature of my case in a matter of weeks has increased this thought processing to a level I am really struggling with.

    Just want the merry-go-round to stop so I can get off and curl up into a ball and sleep peacefully.  

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  • Got to agree with you about control with a small 'c'.

    It is the uncertainty that feeds into an autistic mind as you want to know every scenario so you think you can prepare. However the constant looping of thoughts is like going down a rabbit hole. Well for me it is.

    I would just love to have a settled life and view of the future but since my diagnosis I believe I have been discriminated by my employer and taking on the burden, both emotionally and financially, of an employment tribunal due to forced career lost.

    The impending nature of my case in a matter of weeks has increased this thought processing to a level I am really struggling with.

    Just want the merry-go-round to stop so I can get off and curl up into a ball and sleep peacefully.  

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