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The pitfalls of a gossipy workplace

OAP - Older Autistic Person

My work environment is 99% male - it is that type of industry.

The thing that I find hard to cope with is all the gossip and backbiting. It is shockingly bad.

The other thing is people cutting corners and not doing the damn job properly.

We work in rotating teams of two each day, and being paired with someone who will not follow the rules / protocols / is lazy is horendous for me.

I also made the mistake of confiding with someone senior about my concerns after a particularly tyring day...have discovered that the person I confided in is not trustworthy...and that my concerns have become gossip that has led to unnecessary discomfort.

I think retreating further into a protective shell is needed - no non-work conversations - and in future just ignore those who do the job badly.

I will focus on doing my part of the job properly and turn a blind eye to anything that is not going to jeopardise me.

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  • I've spent the last two weeks just keeping to myself somewhat. Ignoring any gossipy chatter, and saying I'm not interested in talking about other staff when colleagues try and gossip with me.

    I'm pretty sure some are still gossipping about me, but have decided that they can play their silly games if they really want to. I am just gettign on with my job and doing it properly.

    I have also done part of  the other person's job at times when they are cutting corners to ensure it is done properly. It doesn't take much time or effort on my part, even if it is unfair that I have to do so, but makes it me feel better.

    No-one has been directly rude or insulting to my face - I think they may have realised that doing so will not be tolerated and it will be passed to management to deal with. That's fine by me. I do not have friends at work - I keep work and home VERY separate.

    However, there is one kind colleague I get on with pretty well, and who has been messaging me almost daily to ensure I am ok. Even so, I am guarded in my replies and keep them generic.

    Thanks to all here for commenting and supporting.

  • in reply to OAP - Older Autistic Person

    I am so glad you seem to be doing better, that sounds like you are in a much better place, which is so good to hear. I hope it continues to be managable for you.

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