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The pitfalls of a gossipy workplace

OAP - Older Autistic Person

My work environment is 99% male - it is that type of industry.

The thing that I find hard to cope with is all the gossip and backbiting. It is shockingly bad.

The other thing is people cutting corners and not doing the damn job properly.

We work in rotating teams of two each day, and being paired with someone who will not follow the rules / protocols / is lazy is horendous for me.

I also made the mistake of confiding with someone senior about my concerns after a particularly tyring day...have discovered that the person I confided in is not trustworthy...and that my concerns have become gossip that has led to unnecessary discomfort.

I think retreating further into a protective shell is needed - no non-work conversations - and in future just ignore those who do the job badly.

I will focus on doing my part of the job properly and turn a blind eye to anything that is not going to jeopardise me.

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  • I feel your pain, my worst time for this was when working at a software supplier from 1997-2002 where the other young lads around my age were really "alpha-male" while I wasn't, and had things in common which I didn't, the boss criticised me for "not fitting in", "you're not one of the lads are you", "you don't play football with them" etc etc and that it was entirely me who "had to improve my communication".  This is noting that I hadn't declared my Aspergers to that employer at that time, looking back I'm still not sure if discolosing my disabilty would have helped this director as I think he was already somewhat prejudiced in his siding with the pack against me, and it sounds like the senior person at your place is a bit like that.

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  • I feel your pain, my worst time for this was when working at a software supplier from 1997-2002 where the other young lads around my age were really "alpha-male" while I wasn't, and had things in common which I didn't, the boss criticised me for "not fitting in", "you're not one of the lads are you", "you don't play football with them" etc etc and that it was entirely me who "had to improve my communication".  This is noting that I hadn't declared my Aspergers to that employer at that time, looking back I'm still not sure if discolosing my disabilty would have helped this director as I think he was already somewhat prejudiced in his siding with the pack against me, and it sounds like the senior person at your place is a bit like that.

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