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Friends and Autism

JoshF

This is me Venting a little so sorry about that. 
My name is Josh I’m a 22 year old adult who has autism who has struggled with friends and groups at times. I was diagnosed with autism when I was around 10. I feel like people notice things about me and a notice that I’m different in some way or another. I’ve found since coming back to university that some people don’t accept the fact that I’m different or are willing to put in more effort for others who aren’t different. I’ve found it hard to find prolonged friendships due to not liking the same environment as others as I don’t enjoy clubbing and so on. I was wondering if others have advice? 

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  • JoshF said:
    I’ve found since coming back to university that some people don’t accept the fact that I’m different

    It is shocking that fellow students are not accepting you. How narrow-minded and old fashioned - if it were me, I would tell those individuals this because if you go around looking chastened, you will get picked on, unfortunately. Be confident and focus on your studies. Make friends with the librarians and other serious students, and forget the rest.

    I went to Uni very late, age 45 and felt part of things only when I was speaking about my favourite subjects. At breaks and lunch, I used the library or went on walks around the beautiful grounds thinking about what I'd learned that day on my course. If you feel uncomfortable and isolated, take heart from historic students who were hughly isolated yet gained success and fame - Isaac Newton, Albert Einstein, Charles Darwin - look others up online for yourself. Let your mantra be, If you can't join 'em - beat them!! Are there clubs that reflect your specialist interests? That's where you'll find fellow souls. Best wishes and you will always find support within this chat group.

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  • JoshF said:
    I’ve found since coming back to university that some people don’t accept the fact that I’m different

    It is shocking that fellow students are not accepting you. How narrow-minded and old fashioned - if it were me, I would tell those individuals this because if you go around looking chastened, you will get picked on, unfortunately. Be confident and focus on your studies. Make friends with the librarians and other serious students, and forget the rest.

    I went to Uni very late, age 45 and felt part of things only when I was speaking about my favourite subjects. At breaks and lunch, I used the library or went on walks around the beautiful grounds thinking about what I'd learned that day on my course. If you feel uncomfortable and isolated, take heart from historic students who were hughly isolated yet gained success and fame - Isaac Newton, Albert Einstein, Charles Darwin - look others up online for yourself. Let your mantra be, If you can't join 'em - beat them!! Are there clubs that reflect your specialist interests? That's where you'll find fellow souls. Best wishes and you will always find support within this chat group.

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