I have trouble asking for things I want/need

I have trouble with this too.

I heard something once about how you should think about how people usually find it rewarding to help others. We often feel disproportionately guilty for putting them out, while they think little of it, or are pleased to have been the person you chose to ask, or glad to have done something helpful. Though I appreciate people are not always so accommodating 

Yeah, I feel that. 

When I was younger, I couldn't even get food at a BBQ once as I overthink everything, the asking, the guilt, the not knowing what the reaction would be. It's very complicated, and just roll around your head and you don't do anything.

I can get things for my kids no bother, but myself, that's really hard. 

Me too, it dosen't help that when I have asked for things the answers been no, I have this conundrum every xmas and birthday, I'm asked what I want, I think for ages and say what I'd like, then I'm told no.

The other thing about asking for help is are you going to regret it? I find I often do as the help I'm given isn't actually what I've asked for, I find myself having to justify why I want what I want. Some people take over and you get a copy of what they have, which isn't what works for you, or they take so long you get a professional in and then they get upset, personally I dont' think weeks is an acceptable length of time to wait for someone to fix a leaking tap.

 Then there's the other sort of help, I was told by a therapist that I should ask for help more often, so I did, I ended up phoning everybody I knew, not a large number, and everyone was out or otherwise unavailable. I reported this back to the therapist who seemed a bit cross at this, which didn't help.

I never ask anyone else to do my shopping, they can't keep up with my dietary needs and get the wrong stuff.