Recently diagnosed and struggling with work

Hi everyone,

I got my autism diagnosis in November last yeah and then got my adhd diagnosis in march this year. I am in full time work in a very peopley job. I disclosed my diagnosis and things to my boss when i got them and initially she was very supportive. However she seems to struggle with the idea that i might need some reasonable adjustments. She thinks that, because I've gone so long without my diagnosis, that i've been fine until now so why do i suddenly need this support. I've tried to explain its more so that i can function better and be better at my job and not burn out but she doesn't seem to understand. When i talked about how i feel more autistc now i have my diagnosis and autstic skill regression she said that if people know theyll regress after their diagnosis why would you get diagnosed? and that kind of bothered me. I feel like i'm finding things harder, getting more emotional and coping less and it makes me feel stupid.  I feel like i can't ask for adjustments because i'm being seen as attention seeking and being difficult when i coped fine until i've got my diagnoses. I just feel awful and a burden and I don't really know what to do. 

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  • I’m sorry. I think people just don’t understand at all about people having different experiences and needs - it’s like it doesn’t even cross their mind that things could be very different for others compared to their own experiences. And instead of trying to understand and accommodate they just brush it off or make dismissive comments. I am so sorry this is happening to you. I wish I knew what the solution is. Sadly I am also having a really hard time getting people to understand about how I am feeling and about burnout. I spent so long hiding my differences and ill health and then when I finally tried to get support or make people understand they just didn’t and it made me push through and feel worse. 

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  • I’m sorry. I think people just don’t understand at all about people having different experiences and needs - it’s like it doesn’t even cross their mind that things could be very different for others compared to their own experiences. And instead of trying to understand and accommodate they just brush it off or make dismissive comments. I am so sorry this is happening to you. I wish I knew what the solution is. Sadly I am also having a really hard time getting people to understand about how I am feeling and about burnout. I spent so long hiding my differences and ill health and then when I finally tried to get support or make people understand they just didn’t and it made me push through and feel worse. 

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