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Recently diagnosed and struggling with work

Ma3ryn

Hi everyone,

I got my autism diagnosis in November last yeah and then got my adhd diagnosis in march this year. I am in full time work in a very peopley job. I disclosed my diagnosis and things to my boss when i got them and initially she was very supportive. However she seems to struggle with the idea that i might need some reasonable adjustments. She thinks that, because I've gone so long without my diagnosis, that i've been fine until now so why do i suddenly need this support. I've tried to explain its more so that i can function better and be better at my job and not burn out but she doesn't seem to understand. When i talked about how i feel more autistc now i have my diagnosis and autstic skill regression she said that if people know theyll regress after their diagnosis why would you get diagnosed? and that kind of bothered me. I feel like i'm finding things harder, getting more emotional and coping less and it makes me feel stupid.  I feel like i can't ask for adjustments because i'm being seen as attention seeking and being difficult when i coped fine until i've got my diagnoses. I just feel awful and a burden and I don't really know what to do. 

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  • I’ve been exactly in this position. In one case a very experienced team leader/manager but who “thought he was autistic or something” and it got a lot worse. The trouble is most managers aren’t actually trained to managers or people persons. But. I have had a great manager too but he left. I feel it’s the luck of the draw.

    what  I’d suggest is really being self analytical and what you find hard. Surprise meetings? Meetings with no agenda? Lack of detail in instructions? Then think what would make that easier for me? Those are your discussion points for reasonable adjustments.

    i hope this goes well for you.

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  • I’ve been exactly in this position. In one case a very experienced team leader/manager but who “thought he was autistic or something” and it got a lot worse. The trouble is most managers aren’t actually trained to managers or people persons. But. I have had a great manager too but he left. I feel it’s the luck of the draw.

    what  I’d suggest is really being self analytical and what you find hard. Surprise meetings? Meetings with no agenda? Lack of detail in instructions? Then think what would make that easier for me? Those are your discussion points for reasonable adjustments.

    i hope this goes well for you.

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