Hi all,
It's really nice to be part of this community.
I needed your advice/insight on my situation.
I am neurotypical I have been with my partner for 9 years in total. Most of those, went really well. There were some signs that my partner was, perhaps, different, but nothing too major (she was masking very well). Then our toddler came to be and since then her mental health hit rock -bottom. She was so exhausted she could no longer mask and she had many (what we now know were) meltdowns. The NHS misdiagnosed her with anxiety etc. until she was referred to a psychiatrist who rolled the ball leading to her official diagnosis. Most likely she also has ADHD which we can't afford the screening for...
The two questions I have really are:
1. Is it "normal" during a meltdown for the person to bang things and swear? Almost like loosing control?
2. Is it "normal" for an ADHD/ASD person to feel like they want to run away from their marriage?
I am asking because I am trying to figure out which part of my life with her can be justified by the fact that she is an exhausted neurodivergent individual, and which not.
Thank you very much for taking the time to read this and perhaps reply.
I am sorry if my language here is not sensitive. Please let me know if that's the case so I can improve my vocab/approach.
