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Feeling like a burden to my partner

TJM

I seem to keep getting stressed before my partner has to go to work in the morning leading to him going to work also feeling anxious and I want to stop doing it. This morning my usual gym clothes weren't dry and I got very anxious and spiralled. He's NT and very understanding but I feel ashamed and like such a burden.

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  • It might be because it is a transition. You are anticipating him leaving and getting stressed or anxious. This is using up capacity so that little things then tip you over the edge.

    If this is the case then I am not quite sure how to avoid it. Maybe before you go to sleep go over what will happen when you wake up. Try to pay attention to how you feel and try to keep calm. Maybe take deep breaths,  or avoid caffeine, make time for a hug, or if things start just say it doesn't matter,you can do it later or tomorrow and step back. I think things depend on you having priorities and knowing what you can drop, and preparing those you can't in advance.

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  • It might be because it is a transition. You are anticipating him leaving and getting stressed or anxious. This is using up capacity so that little things then tip you over the edge.

    If this is the case then I am not quite sure how to avoid it. Maybe before you go to sleep go over what will happen when you wake up. Try to pay attention to how you feel and try to keep calm. Maybe take deep breaths,  or avoid caffeine, make time for a hug, or if things start just say it doesn't matter,you can do it later or tomorrow and step back. I think things depend on you having priorities and knowing what you can drop, and preparing those you can't in advance.

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