vulnerability and sexuality in schools

As the issue has arisen recently I wanted to raise a few questions, hopefully for NAS to look at, if they would only include this as an area needing research.

Primarily wearing odd clothing, having odd hairstyles, not washing properly, is attributed to being over-focussed (neglecting to look after oneself), or due to sensitivity, mainly hyposensitivity, but sometimes a response to hypersensitivity.

But I also wonder whether to some extent it is a defence mechanism - being smelly, unattractive and otherwise someone to avoid prevents unwelcome contact with others.

That might be sensory issues with contact, or a response to bullying, but it could also be a response to unwelcome contact with peers.

Adolescents experiment sexually, even while at school - there are plenty of opportunities. They also experiment with sexualities. A vulnerable child on the spectrum, possibly suggestible, or easily led, or seeking to please, could be roped in to providing a subject for such experimentation.

I wonder whether that vulnerability, which I think is widespread and commonplace in mainstream schools, leads children on the spectrum to use unattractiveness as a defence mechanism.

I also wonder if enough is known about the social geography of adolescents on the spectrum in schools. It isn't just about being lonely and left out of recreation, or needing to find a quiet place, how often is it about appearing inobvious, unnoticeable, being able to hide or stay out of sight?

I dont think enough is known about this. We keep reading about adolescents on the spectrum having a particularly difficult time - not fitting in and being excluded from peer socialisation and play, being bullied etc., but is enough known about vulnerability to sexual experimentation by their peers.

No doubt everyone will clam up as soon as I've raised this. But I do think this is important. It is an area of adolescent life for children on the spectrum that isn't adequately understood but could have long term harmful impact on individuals.

NAS in particular, please give this spome consideration.

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  • Two quick points: a, determenism vs free will has been a point of unresolved philosophic debate for centuries, wiki, but whereas we hope to see equality in general and Autism equality specifically we need to see a deterministic view of human development prevail lest we be told that Autism is a choice...

    b, I think the tendancy of persons with ASVs to neglect personal grooming is a matter of motivation. Whereas the NT adolescent has no barrier to social/sexual inclusion (s)he is motivated to maintain his/her appearance in order to prove sucessful in that field. Whereas the AS adolescent has barriers to inclusion in this matter ("I wouldn't go out with you if you were the last man alive! Why? Why do you think you freak!") they have no motivation to conform their appearance and so just dont bother...

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  • Two quick points: a, determenism vs free will has been a point of unresolved philosophic debate for centuries, wiki, but whereas we hope to see equality in general and Autism equality specifically we need to see a deterministic view of human development prevail lest we be told that Autism is a choice...

    b, I think the tendancy of persons with ASVs to neglect personal grooming is a matter of motivation. Whereas the NT adolescent has no barrier to social/sexual inclusion (s)he is motivated to maintain his/her appearance in order to prove sucessful in that field. Whereas the AS adolescent has barriers to inclusion in this matter ("I wouldn't go out with you if you were the last man alive! Why? Why do you think you freak!") they have no motivation to conform their appearance and so just dont bother...

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