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vulnerability and sexuality in schools

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As the issue has arisen recently I wanted to raise a few questions, hopefully for NAS to look at, if they would only include this as an area needing research.

Primarily wearing odd clothing, having odd hairstyles, not washing properly, is attributed to being over-focussed (neglecting to look after oneself), or due to sensitivity, mainly hyposensitivity, but sometimes a response to hypersensitivity.

But I also wonder whether to some extent it is a defence mechanism - being smelly, unattractive and otherwise someone to avoid prevents unwelcome contact with others.

That might be sensory issues with contact, or a response to bullying, but it could also be a response to unwelcome contact with peers.

Adolescents experiment sexually, even while at school - there are plenty of opportunities. They also experiment with sexualities. A vulnerable child on the spectrum, possibly suggestible, or easily led, or seeking to please, could be roped in to providing a subject for such experimentation.

I wonder whether that vulnerability, which I think is widespread and commonplace in mainstream schools, leads children on the spectrum to use unattractiveness as a defence mechanism.

I also wonder if enough is known about the social geography of adolescents on the spectrum in schools. It isn't just about being lonely and left out of recreation, or needing to find a quiet place, how often is it about appearing inobvious, unnoticeable, being able to hide or stay out of sight?

I dont think enough is known about this. We keep reading about adolescents on the spectrum having a particularly difficult time - not fitting in and being excluded from peer socialisation and play, being bullied etc., but is enough known about vulnerability to sexual experimentation by their peers.

No doubt everyone will clam up as soon as I've raised this. But I do think this is important. It is an area of adolescent life for children on the spectrum that isn't adequately understood but could have long term harmful impact on individuals.

NAS in particular, please give this spome consideration.

Parents

  • ATTENTION PLEASE!

    I created this discussion to try to raise awareness of the vulnerability of young people in school.

    I had hoped perhaps that respondents would understand the importance of this. A debate on the morals of sexuality really belongs in another thread.

    In the latter part of my career I was on a Safeguarding Vulnerable Adults Committee, in a university context. The issues discussed included students on the autistic spectrum in the context of what students around them get up to these days.

    I don't know whether there are vulnerable adolescents committees. What I do know is that maybe twenty or thirty years ago students started university mostly as virgins and experimented from there. Nowadays students have already done most of this experimentation in their teens while at school.

    Parents of children on the spectrum may be less aware that parents of NT children have a lot to worry about where able socialising kids are concerned. The pressures on young people to experiment sexually, and the bullying of those that don't, or appear naiive, is a serious issue.

    I should perhaps have broadened my post to include girls on the spectrum being vulnerable to experimentation by boys, as more suggestible or leadable subjects. Or indeed boys on the spectrum being taken advantage of by girls. It happens the recent example was boys taking advantage of a boy on the spectrum.

    Forget experiences of school twenty years ago. The situation now is far more threatening for vulnerable young people. And I dont think enough is being done to understand these issues.

    Please move the whether you agree with homosexuality or whether it exists debate to somewhere more appropriate, it doesn't relate to having autism.

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  • ATTENTION PLEASE!

    I created this discussion to try to raise awareness of the vulnerability of young people in school.

    I had hoped perhaps that respondents would understand the importance of this. A debate on the morals of sexuality really belongs in another thread.

    In the latter part of my career I was on a Safeguarding Vulnerable Adults Committee, in a university context. The issues discussed included students on the autistic spectrum in the context of what students around them get up to these days.

    I don't know whether there are vulnerable adolescents committees. What I do know is that maybe twenty or thirty years ago students started university mostly as virgins and experimented from there. Nowadays students have already done most of this experimentation in their teens while at school.

    Parents of children on the spectrum may be less aware that parents of NT children have a lot to worry about where able socialising kids are concerned. The pressures on young people to experiment sexually, and the bullying of those that don't, or appear naiive, is a serious issue.

    I should perhaps have broadened my post to include girls on the spectrum being vulnerable to experimentation by boys, as more suggestible or leadable subjects. Or indeed boys on the spectrum being taken advantage of by girls. It happens the recent example was boys taking advantage of a boy on the spectrum.

    Forget experiences of school twenty years ago. The situation now is far more threatening for vulnerable young people. And I dont think enough is being done to understand these issues.

    Please move the whether you agree with homosexuality or whether it exists debate to somewhere more appropriate, it doesn't relate to having autism.

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