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Spending time alone

Touiise

Hello,

I was recently diagnosed at 30 back in January, It was a complete shock.

I've found myself wanting to spend more time alone.

Perviously wanting to spend time alone was seen as a "red flag" for my mental health dipping. I don't feel like my mental health is dipping but more that I'm just needing that time alone to just watch videos on my favourite things and relax. It's a struggle to be around people even more than pre diagnoses since I know that my brain is different to theirs.

Did anyone else experience this? I'm still not sure on how to regulate myself or to even "unmask" when I'm alone never mind around other people but l'm starting a course ran by an autism charity that l'm hoping will

Sorry for my long winded question.

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  • I love spending time alone. I am married with children so it's not always easy and I probably don't get quite as much as I need, but regular alone time is absolutely vital for my mental health. I go out running alone and I have a job that involves a lot of driving which is also alone time. Very occasionally my wife will stay at her mother's with the kids and this is absolute heaven! I used to feel guilty about wanting to be alone so much but it doesn't mean I don't love my family or want to be with them ever, just that I have to recharge my batteries by being by myself.

    When I am alone I can just relax, not worry about masking, be weird, do what I want and not have demands placed on me.

  • in reply to McFrost

    I bet the time you spend with your family when your batteries are fully recharged is good quality time though, so don't beat yourself up to much

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