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Spending time alone

Touiise

Hello,

I was recently diagnosed at 30 back in January, It was a complete shock.

I've found myself wanting to spend more time alone.

Perviously wanting to spend time alone was seen as a "red flag" for my mental health dipping. I don't feel like my mental health is dipping but more that I'm just needing that time alone to just watch videos on my favourite things and relax. It's a struggle to be around people even more than pre diagnoses since I know that my brain is different to theirs.

Did anyone else experience this? I'm still not sure on how to regulate myself or to even "unmask" when I'm alone never mind around other people but l'm starting a course ran by an autism charity that l'm hoping will

Sorry for my long winded question.

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  • I like spending time alone, theres a sense of mental spaciousness from not having to please others or "do things".

    We're told we're a social species and spending time away from others is somehow bad and wanting to be alone is bad, I question that, I think we have differing social needs and different ways to express our socialbilty, we don't have to be surrounded by people and noise all the time, it is a choice. But, it seems a choice that those who work in the mental health field are uncomfortable with, have they never heard of being lonely in a crowd? Isn't it better to spend less, but better quality time with a few people, rather than be surrounded by groups who you may not being getting any benefit from, in fact it may do the opposite and harm you.

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  • I like spending time alone, theres a sense of mental spaciousness from not having to please others or "do things".

    We're told we're a social species and spending time away from others is somehow bad and wanting to be alone is bad, I question that, I think we have differing social needs and different ways to express our socialbilty, we don't have to be surrounded by people and noise all the time, it is a choice. But, it seems a choice that those who work in the mental health field are uncomfortable with, have they never heard of being lonely in a crowd? Isn't it better to spend less, but better quality time with a few people, rather than be surrounded by groups who you may not being getting any benefit from, in fact it may do the opposite and harm you.

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