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Regression impacting relationship

AdamH123

I am newly diagnosed though the outcome was expected after feeling my traits growing more prevalent over the last few years due to life struggles. The stress has impacted me and creates a cycle: making me feel worse, my autistic traits grow stronger and impacts my family and I feel even worse still.

At this stage I just feel like I am having a negative impact on my relationship. I hoped my diagnosis would make me feel like there was a rationale for my problems but I am now just seeing myself as some different and less capable. 

I hear the terms like regression and burnout and it feels like its what's happening. But as I try to address it I am worried about who I have become. I am someone so different now, I wasn't the person of 10 years ago and I feel like I am less good, less able and more of a problem. I want to be me again, autistic but not like this

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  • OK,  before trying to help, please hear where .i am coming from as my experience i forms what I am about to say.

    I am now 68. Male and recently lost my wife of 40 years to vascular dementia. I have had a train wreck of a career due to my autism and never connecting with people. I was assessed just a few months ago and am now beginning to understand how my autism has contributed to where I am. 

    Like me, you are still the same person you have always been and always will be. Yes you probably are having a negative impact on your relationships because reading people is a skill we A's don’t have much of. But that doesn’t make you a bad person. 

    Understand yourself and work to your strengths not your weaknesses. It is likely you will never be a great footballer or golfer because sports like that focus on physical attributes we A's don’t have. Remember many of our greatest people like Einstein are or were like us, autistic as they come. We are in the company of the likes of Mozart, Beethoven, Musk, Cavendish, Courtney Love, Daryl Hannah. 

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  • OK,  before trying to help, please hear where .i am coming from as my experience i forms what I am about to say.

    I am now 68. Male and recently lost my wife of 40 years to vascular dementia. I have had a train wreck of a career due to my autism and never connecting with people. I was assessed just a few months ago and am now beginning to understand how my autism has contributed to where I am. 

    Like me, you are still the same person you have always been and always will be. Yes you probably are having a negative impact on your relationships because reading people is a skill we A's don’t have much of. But that doesn’t make you a bad person. 

    Understand yourself and work to your strengths not your weaknesses. It is likely you will never be a great footballer or golfer because sports like that focus on physical attributes we A's don’t have. Remember many of our greatest people like Einstein are or were like us, autistic as they come. We are in the company of the likes of Mozart, Beethoven, Musk, Cavendish, Courtney Love, Daryl Hannah. 

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