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Time frames

Expecto_Patronum

Anyone else really struggle with being a time frame? I hate not knowing how long it will be til something happens so I always want a time frame but I think most of the time this does more harm than good.

It seems to be rare that people's time frames are correct and I find this difficult. My thinking is rigid so if someone says it'll take this long, my brain expects it to take that long. Although I can rationalise this and understand reasons why the time frame may be longer, I still find it difficult to deal with and then I'm back to the unknown.

Before Christmas I had an appointment and was told the next one would likely be spring. I was fine with this time frame until we hit spring. There is plenty of spring left, it's not like the appointment is actually late yet. But the anxiety about when it'll be has really kicked in.

Parents

  • Waiting for things is really difficult, especially when you don't know exactly when they'll happen. It's like being in a state of constantly bracing yourself for the thing to happen, so your mind can't rest properly.

    I get really worked up when I can't meet a timeframe myself, whereas the people I work with are less bothered. They're very much of the attitude that a deadline doesn't necessarily need to be met if noone has chased them. But if everyone held up their end of the timeframe, it would make everything much easier for everyone down the line!

    I hope you hear about that appointment soon :)

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  • Waiting for things is really difficult, especially when you don't know exactly when they'll happen. It's like being in a state of constantly bracing yourself for the thing to happen, so your mind can't rest properly.

    I get really worked up when I can't meet a timeframe myself, whereas the people I work with are less bothered. They're very much of the attitude that a deadline doesn't necessarily need to be met if noone has chased them. But if everyone held up their end of the timeframe, it would make everything much easier for everyone down the line!

    I hope you hear about that appointment soon :)

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  • in reply to BeaE

    Thank you. I think with this, there are also unknowns of what will happen in the appointment. The time frame was the only known thing I had and that no longer feels known.

    Yes. I was amazed recently when one of the managers in work explained to me that when I'm told to do something I do it asap but other people don't work that way. I was really surprised how ok with this she was. Surely her job would be much easier if people just did.