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Being easily manipulated

RohannT91

Hello, this is my first time posting on here, hope everyone is well. 

I am a 34 year old man with AuDHD. I am really struggling at the moment with a lot of things but a big thing I've realised is that I have been being manipulated, used and exploited by people I thought were 'friends'.

One of them used me for almost 2 years until somebody else recognised it and put a stop to it about 6 months ago. I had done so many favours, spent so much money, been drawn into so much drama, had so much responsibility put on me that I completely isolated myself from anyone and anything else.

Over the past few months, having reflected on the situation and spoken to people, I realised I was scared of her, unable to set boundaries and thought that it was how friendship was. 

Then the past week I have stupidly been drawn into a situation that has now really made me realise just how easily manipulated and vulnerable I am when it comes to others, because I've stupidly sent over £150 to someone I've never met who I now know was only pretending to be my friend and was coercing me, guilt tripping me and trying to bribe me. 

I've had to contact my bank, PayPal and a company he had me buy cards from today and I'm so ashamed. There isn't much they can do and my bank have blocked my card and sent a new one - and also marked me as vulnerable... But I just feel so stupid as I didn't even have that money to give, it was out of my overdraft. 

Sorry for the rant, just I can't tell anyone else in my life because they'll be angry at my stupidity. 

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  • I have had this I used to and still do get moved in on, and gaslighted by people. I’m highly aware of what people are like when I first meet them, it’s usual that these people think they are quite clever, smile and stare. It’s unlikely that it will happen again if you are wary and ask for more information. In the  past I’ve been overly cautious and asked people for exte id at my door when they have actually been genuine. 

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  • I have had this I used to and still do get moved in on, and gaslighted by people. I’m highly aware of what people are like when I first meet them, it’s usual that these people think they are quite clever, smile and stare. It’s unlikely that it will happen again if you are wary and ask for more information. In the  past I’ve been overly cautious and asked people for exte id at my door when they have actually been genuine. 

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