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Repetitive and narrow interests

Autismman

Just wondering what others thoughts are on their interests and how those interests may have impacted negatively when they need to try learn new skills and or adapt to a new work environment. 

A little background on myself; I have very little interest in much outside the scope of the news, gaming, some history, nature and occasionally the spiritual world. It sounds quite extensive and would appear to cover most of the reality we find ourselves in however I have always lacked ambition or had any interest in what may be known as “being successful” or “popular”. I’m happy being me and my routine keeps me sane and feeling safe but I do not think others would understand this way of life or being. 

Any common experience or thoughts very welcome, thank you 

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  • Your sentence here is pretty much how I feel nowadays:

    I have always lacked ambition or had any interest in what may be known as “being successful” or “popular”. I’m happy being me and my routine keeps me sane and feeling safe but I do not think others would understand this way of life or being. 

    This echoes to me from the past: "You don't have any ambitions!" By family members and partners.

    Not having any ambitions may be a bit further from what you describe, I presume, and can also be quite harmful. Ambitions can be goals, and those help us look forward.

    The lack of ambitions, in my case, could have arisen from disappointment with societal norms and hypocrisy (as in many don't say what they really think, and so they don't act accordingly to what they say) and so forth. Like, are we really destroying nature and thinking nothing will come back? In a sense I may have concluded that no help would be enough, so I would just give up on any ambitions.

    Nowadays, I feel a bit closer to your description, luckily.

  • in reply to emanningis

    I suppose I should have said career ambitions or seeking further/higher education. I feel all these things I mention above are usually commonly sort after by most people. School, college, uni, marriage, kids, high paying job etc (bettering yourself) why can’t people accept people for who they WANT to be and not by their life achievement or lack of?

  • in reply to Autismman

    I agree; do people ever ask themselves who they want to be? I think you hit an important point.

    In my view some do, some don't. For those that do, how they choose who they want to be? I have read some philosophers that mention "role models" as one way in which we acquire values and goals. The other one, is just culture.

    Even those that choose who they want to be, don't question their role-models and the culture they grow in. But those silently set our goals (such as high pay). This may require intense introspection, and it's then ignored.

    Many individuals go their whole lives without ever introspecting or analysing this issues, and if questioned they may get quite angry at times.

    I don't think I have an answer, but questioning this has been for me a certain obsession, and after the struggle you enjoy breeze of fresh air. At least for a while. 

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  • in reply to Autismman

    I agree; do people ever ask themselves who they want to be? I think you hit an important point.

    In my view some do, some don't. For those that do, how they choose who they want to be? I have read some philosophers that mention "role models" as one way in which we acquire values and goals. The other one, is just culture.

    Even those that choose who they want to be, don't question their role-models and the culture they grow in. But those silently set our goals (such as high pay). This may require intense introspection, and it's then ignored.

    Many individuals go their whole lives without ever introspecting or analysing this issues, and if questioned they may get quite angry at times.

    I don't think I have an answer, but questioning this has been for me a certain obsession, and after the struggle you enjoy breeze of fresh air. At least for a while. 

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