Social exclusion

Im a 63 year old, high functioning lady with audhd. I was a member of a local amateur drama group for over 20 years on and off. There a young man there who is treasurer, actor, lights, sound, tech, committee etc. I had call to go to his house and noticed a costume belonging to me that I had thought taken by another group when we had joint storage. So I was surprised to see it and said I would love to get it back. I messaged the theatre group who then had it and they were fine and said yes of course just take it. 
I was then told by this man that I had upset him as he had a good liaison between the two groups and I had created friction. I apologised and said they had seem fine. 
a little later I lent this group a costume and they kept it without return saying they had originally paid for this 18 years ago but in fact I had given the cash to the treasurer at the time so it belonged to me. They agreed to give it back. I then received an email saying I had upset this man and was now barred from membership!! I went into meltdown and was emotionally traumatised by it all.i tried contacting man but he hung up and then blocked me on all social media. 
A year on and he appeared doing lights at the theatre I am now at and happy at, I tried to speak to him but he just blanked me. 
I was happy to try and resolve the matter but he refuses as he says Im just a mental ***! It's been very upsetting as all my other theatre friends love and support me... is it legal to exclude someone with autism without making an attempt at reasonable adjustments? 

Parents
  • so if I get this right it sounds like he set this whole thing up as a trap to get you, he told you the company had one of your costumes, then acted hurt and started a witch hunt when you went to reclaim the costume he told you about, what a [removed by mod] , some people are just evil 

  • Yes with more new information he clearly had a plan! However he's actually done me a favour in hindsight as I love where I am now. Im part of a group that is all about inclusion and neurodiversity but ironically knowing what happened to me made me stronger and watch out for it happening to others. I think they see as vulnerable and easy targets forgetting we are actually very intelligent! 

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  • Yes with more new information he clearly had a plan! However he's actually done me a favour in hindsight as I love where I am now. Im part of a group that is all about inclusion and neurodiversity but ironically knowing what happened to me made me stronger and watch out for it happening to others. I think they see as vulnerable and easy targets forgetting we are actually very intelligent! 

Children
  • very good, I find a life spending as little time around these people is the life best lived , I find they are the people who live for this stuff so they always come prepared and they only go on people they think will be a easy target, im glad you are feeling better, stay strong your better than these people.