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Help with my autistic partner

maisiemoo66

Please can you guys help as I don’t know what to do. My partner is autistic and we’ve been together a few months. It’s been so great, with the occasional upset here and there like any relationship. Mainly silly misunderstandings. But we had an uber big misunderstanding recently where I was ill and he wasn’t remotely sympathetic and I got upset, we rowed over something silly and we didn’t talk for a week. I was so ill even at the hospital at one point and I was stubborn, didn’t tell him as he wasn’t interested in my head. Came to my senses and messaged him and he said he assumed we were over. 
I’ve tried and tried to talk, he says he’s too emotional and overwhelmed and wouldn’t know what to say. I have probably been a bit panicky in my messages. So I’ve backed off. But I’m finding this limbo really hard to take as I want things to be ok. 
what on earth do I do?  I’m respecting his need for space but it’s hard as o don’t know what he’s thinking. I don’t want to lose him. 

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  • Hi, I would really focus on what he says in writing, and not read between the lines. And also be direct and succinct with him. Don’t try and make him read between the lines either 

  • in reply to Asparagus

    Well he appears to have ghosted me Sob so so sad Cry

  • in reply to maisiemoo66

    Sorry to hear you are still having a hard time. Relationships can be hard and can be a mystery. You've got lots of good advice, but for the moment, it might be good to focus on yourself just now -being on hold for a long time can be very tiring, especially with the confusion and not knowing what's going on.

    I hope you can do something for yourself, that you can find some peace and happiness, as you deserve that too. If you focus on giving yourself some R&R, and being in a good place in your own head, then if anything happens, you'll be able to go forward positively and be able to be supportive, rather than feeling emotionally exhausted from waiting. It's touching you care so deeply, though do take care of yourself too. Wishing you well.

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  • in reply to maisiemoo66

    Sorry to hear you are still having a hard time. Relationships can be hard and can be a mystery. You've got lots of good advice, but for the moment, it might be good to focus on yourself just now -being on hold for a long time can be very tiring, especially with the confusion and not knowing what's going on.

    I hope you can do something for yourself, that you can find some peace and happiness, as you deserve that too. If you focus on giving yourself some R&R, and being in a good place in your own head, then if anything happens, you'll be able to go forward positively and be able to be supportive, rather than feeling emotionally exhausted from waiting. It's touching you care so deeply, though do take care of yourself too. Wishing you well.

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