Help with my autistic partner

Please can you guys help as I don’t know what to do. My partner is autistic and we’ve been together a few months. It’s been so great, with the occasional upset here and there like any relationship. Mainly silly misunderstandings. But we had an uber big misunderstanding recently where I was ill and he wasn’t remotely sympathetic and I got upset, we rowed over something silly and we didn’t talk for a week. I was so ill even at the hospital at one point and I was stubborn, didn’t tell him as he wasn’t interested in my head. Came to my senses and messaged him and he said he assumed we were over. 
I’ve tried and tried to talk, he says he’s too emotional and overwhelmed and wouldn’t know what to say. I have probably been a bit panicky in my messages. So I’ve backed off. But I’m finding this limbo really hard to take as I want things to be ok. 
what on earth do I do?  I’m respecting his need for space but it’s hard as o don’t know what he’s thinking. I don’t want to lose him. 

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  • Giving him space is a good idea, IMO. He needs time after such an upset to reset. It’s probably best not to keep messaging him, as that could overwhelm him. Just send the occasional message to make it clear you’re still here and not going anywhere. I think you should wait a bit and then ask how he’s feeling.

    Good luck.

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  • Giving him space is a good idea, IMO. He needs time after such an upset to reset. It’s probably best not to keep messaging him, as that could overwhelm him. Just send the occasional message to make it clear you’re still here and not going anywhere. I think you should wait a bit and then ask how he’s feeling.

    Good luck.

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