The Naming Ceremony: Is Diagnosis a Modern Shamanic Ritual?

While the clinical world is often obsessed with "disorders," most of us know that’s a fundamentally broken way to describe our experience. Lately, I’ve been thinking that for many in the neurodivergent community, getting that formal recognition—or finding your own path to self-understanding—feels less like a medical report and more like a naming ceremony.
I have to give a huge nod to TheCatWoman for this spark. In a recent chat, she used the brilliant analogy: trying to run a neurodivergent brain on neurotypical psychology is like trying to run Windows on an Apple. It got me thinking—if the "operating systems" are that different, then the people who originally built these theories weren't really scientists in the modern sense. They were more like 20th-century shamans trying to map a spirit world they didn't fully understand.
In ancient cultures, a naming ritual was a way to reintegrate someone whose "spirit" seemed at odds with the world. Once named, the "problem" became a "trait," and the person could finally take their rightful place in the tribe. Whether that name comes from a formal assessment or through the "vision quest" of self-diagnosis, it’s a powerful moment of literal recognition. It's like finally identifying with your own spirit animal—finding the creature that actually matches your tracks, rather than trying to pretend you’re a wolf when you’re actually a horse.
I also noticed NAS recently asking the community to share their own tips for securing reasonable adjustments. I suspect they may have been pivoting from my earlier post about being fed up with the lack of them! In this shamanic framework, when a group asks the tribe for their "how-to" guides, they are gathering the communal wisdom needed to help us become the Architects of our own Sacred Space.
These adjustments—whether it's noise-cancelling, flexible hours, or literal task lists—are the protective boundaries that stop our "Apple" OS from overheating in a "Windows" world and the horses getting predated by the wolves.
For those of you who have found your "Name"—whether through a clinician or your own research—did it feel like a clinical label, or did it feel like a ceremony that finally brought your soul home?
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  • I am struggling a lot lately just because I want to believe that these groups or bonds we are forming are our own and not contrived by some greater entity that doesn’t have our quality of life as a priority. 

    I have felt attending a late diagnosed group recently that whilst I felt this was warm and welcoming, the structure of this to me appears like nt group categorisation. Even within the ms teams meeting we were required to break off into mini chat groups. Talk about stimming toys etc, a lot of it feels really unnatural to me. Without wanting to sound too distrusting or pessimistic feels like top down organisation in a neurotypical way, not run or designed by nds although they are certainly the concern of the group chat. 
    I see all of this as further human ritual, identifying, naming, separating subdividing are all methods used to excercise control. It does concern me if I question systems and intent behind rituals. But why do we still feel the way we do? Because in many cases history has proven these to be the continued normalisation of discrimination. Shamans are also in some ways charlatans and rely on others being misinformed or believing in them. Information is so widespread and fragmented now that’s virtually impossible to impose belief on someone in that way. 

    It’s important to look at all of the outside possibles that may not have been considered. What if we are preconditioned to believe what other people want to serve their goals, what if Neurotypicals are sending us (on a long distance run around) wasting our time?  Because many of the things I have gone through are illegal, yet it seems the laws and society are in no rush to change - there’s no plausible explanation for why that is?

  • What if you don't use stimming toys? Do you have to talk about them anyway? DO you have a chance to tell the wider group?

  • Those are really good questions.  I need to sit back and guard my energy for a bit so I won't jump back into giving what my answers to them might be right away and will sit and ponder them...  I wonder what  and the rest of the group or indeed yourself  have as answers to them?

  • He’s the patron saint of the 'wyrd,' as far as I'm concerned! Whether it’s Wiccan wonder or my own Taoist flow, Bowie always seemed to have a foot in both worlds. I’m glad you caught the reference—it’s those little 'lightning bolt' moments that keep our connection strong.
    Of course, like any of us, he had his shadows—I’m well aware of his dodgier political dalliances back in the day. But as a Taoist, I’ve learned the value of forgiveness; the man was a flawed vessel for a very pure, cosmic frequency. He was a super cool antenna for the universe, even when he was off-signal.
    Grounded in the Tao, but always looking to the stars.
    Best Wishes
  • hehe David had to phone someone - there's a starman!

  • I'd say so up front when when asked to do the task and probably make myself unpopular by refusing to discuss it. Then I'd probably make it even worse by asking lots of questions about why the group is being run as it is and ask if anyone else felt as I do? I can't help it, I'm just a natural rebel and I've torn my dress and my face is a mess!

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  • I'd say so up front when when asked to do the task and probably make myself unpopular by refusing to discuss it. Then I'd probably make it even worse by asking lots of questions about why the group is being run as it is and ask if anyone else felt as I do? I can't help it, I'm just a natural rebel and I've torn my dress and my face is a mess!

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