I am struggling a lot lately just because I want to believe that these groups or bonds we are forming are our own and not contrived by some greater entity that doesn’t have our quality of life as a priority.
I have felt attending a late diagnosed group recently that whilst I felt this was warm and welcoming, the structure of this to me appears like nt group categorisation. Even within the ms teams meeting we were required to break off into mini chat groups. Talk about stimming toys etc, a lot of it feels really unnatural to me. Without wanting to sound too distrusting or pessimistic feels like top down organisation in a neurotypical way, not run or designed by nds although they are certainly the concern of the group chat.
I see all of this as further human ritual, identifying, naming, separating subdividing are all methods used to excercise control. It does concern me if I question systems and intent behind rituals. But why do we still feel the way we do? Because in many cases history has proven these to be the continued normalisation of discrimination. Shamans are also in some ways charlatans and rely on others being misinformed or believing in them. Information is so widespread and fragmented now that’s virtually impossible to impose belief on someone in that way.
It’s important to look at all of the outside possibles that may not have been considered. What if we are preconditioned to believe what other people want to serve their goals, what if Neurotypicals are sending us (on a long distance run around) wasting our time? Because many of the things I have gone through are illegal, yet it seems the laws and society are in no rush to change - there’s no plausible explanation for why that is?
What if you don't use stimming toys? Do you have to talk about them anyway? DO you have a chance to tell the wider group?
Those are really good questions. I need to sit back and guard my energy for a bit so I won't jump back into giving what my answers to them might be right away and will sit and ponder them... I wonder what pietro_21 and the rest of the group or indeed yourself TheCatWoman have as answers to them?