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Normal

Draziwekans

How do you know what is 'Normal'. What is the normal reaction to things. How do people react to situations normally.  How do you know if you've done the wrong thing, said the wrong thing. It is confusing and I'm sure leads to barriers going up, hyper alertness, on edge and shutting down making it even harder to communicate. So then how do you know whats real.

  • Draziwekans said:
    How do you know what is 'Normal'. What is the normal reaction to things.

    In a word - experience.

    As you know, society is a complex thing and its rules of behavior and expectations vary significantly from one place to another, from one culture to another and even with time.

    To know what is normal you need to observe behaviour and absorb sources of information (guides and other peoples experiences are useful in the absence of perspnal experience). From this you can observe how people behave and how others react to what is considered abnormal behaviour.

    I think this is an activity that many autists shy away from because they avoid social situations and are often wrapped up in their opwn world or issues so will miss the observation part of the process.

    It is how NTs learn.