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Making friends in person

Casyellow

Hi, I recently lost my friend group after going through a marriage separation. I am used to losing friendships over the years but I think I might still want a friend. I tried to join a local group for autistic adults about 6 months ago but they never called back. 

I was just wondering if anyone had any other suggestions to make friends (I'm 44). I love crafts but I find it really hard just walking into the room on my own to even start the process. Just wondered what your experiences were or any suggestions?

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  • A good question.

    I would say don't go looking for people to become friends. Instead, try to relax (yes, I know that's difficult) and just talk to people without the self-inflicted pressure of hoping they may become friends. Acquaintances are also good - and some may eventually become friends. 

    I lost all but two of my friend group when my first marriage failed, so I totally empathise with you. I even 'lost' my daughter as a result. Over the years I've been able to form lots of new friendships in a different part of the country with a new family.

    I'm no good in groups, so going along to meetings and functions is still out of the question for me. But I can chat to neighbours and friends of (new) family - a bit like spreading my tentacles. It just doesn't happen overnight.

    As I said to my now wife of 28 years when I met her 30 years ago: you can do it. 

    Good luck.

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  • A good question.

    I would say don't go looking for people to become friends. Instead, try to relax (yes, I know that's difficult) and just talk to people without the self-inflicted pressure of hoping they may become friends. Acquaintances are also good - and some may eventually become friends. 

    I lost all but two of my friend group when my first marriage failed, so I totally empathise with you. I even 'lost' my daughter as a result. Over the years I've been able to form lots of new friendships in a different part of the country with a new family.

    I'm no good in groups, so going along to meetings and functions is still out of the question for me. But I can chat to neighbours and friends of (new) family - a bit like spreading my tentacles. It just doesn't happen overnight.

    As I said to my now wife of 28 years when I met her 30 years ago: you can do it. 

    Good luck.

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