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To what extent do you feel people care when you tell them you have ASD?

pietro_21

What I mean is that I have had quite mixed responses. In different contexts. I am not sure to the general public pupoluation whether it means much the same, or as it did to me before I knew I was autistic. By 'care' I mean when people genuinely seem to want to understand how that is, feels, or try to empathise with you.

I'm not sure what kind of resonse I am looking for when I tell people. Or if I should expect anything at all.It seems like public understanding is a massive issue, or the ways autism is understood varies greatly from person to person. 

Sorry if this is triggering to anyone. I am interested to know this not so much of your experience of telling close family members, more outer circles and aquaintances.

I may rephrase this question. But keep a record of the original in the description.

Parents

  • I've only told my wife and four close friends. Only one seems to have cared - unfortunately not my wife. I'm telling myself that it's because the other four have no idea what it means. The one who cares wasn't in the slightest bit surprised when I told him, saying that he had suspected it for several years. 

    All I could do was apologise to all of them for the inappropriate comments and actions I had probably made over the years. 

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  • I've only told my wife and four close friends. Only one seems to have cared - unfortunately not my wife. I'm telling myself that it's because the other four have no idea what it means. The one who cares wasn't in the slightest bit surprised when I told him, saying that he had suspected it for several years. 

    All I could do was apologise to all of them for the inappropriate comments and actions I had probably made over the years. 

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  • in reply to TimC

    The person I have told who isn't in family I informed during my assessment was convinced I wasn't, but then very accepting of the idea. The other was sure I wasn't (my mother) then told me she had always known. Which was quite amusing. So there seem to be differing ways for people to deal with it.