Walls with glitter

Indeed, getting a label doesn't change things.

What it does though is gives you permission to accept you feel different and it is ok to make some changes. You need to change sone things hough, which is hard and there is no one size fits all solution. Even if it only how you think about things. The small changes add up.

It is very tempting, and a common cognitive distortion, to.look for some big thing or things that will fix it all. It you don't see one, you do nothing, what's the point 

I know it sounds small and weak, but little things work. I fought against it for months (but actually decades). I always look for big things, but it is a mistake.

Observe yourself carefully. Make informed small changes and see if they work. Write them down so you can focus on positives for encouragement,  because focussing on negatives is another cognitive problem.

The point is to give yourself the best chance to do what you want. It is slow, but faster than you think, if that makes sense.

A year seems forever but goes quite fast.

I have some time perception issues which also makes it harder, but that is a different thing. The point is just to start.

And find one little thing you like that makes you smile. 

Indeed, getting a label doesn't change things.

What it does though is gives you permission to accept you feel different and it is ok to make some changes. You need to change sone things hough, which is hard and there is no one size fits all solution. Even if it only how you think about things. The small changes add up.

It is very tempting, and a common cognitive distortion, to.look for some big thing or things that will fix it all. It you don't see one, you do nothing, what's the point 

I know it sounds small and weak, but little things work. I fought against it for months (but actually decades). I always look for big things, but it is a mistake.

Observe yourself carefully. Make informed small changes and see if they work. Write them down so you can focus on positives for encouragement,  because focussing on negatives is another cognitive problem.

The point is to give yourself the best chance to do what you want. It is slow, but faster than you think, if that makes sense.

A year seems forever but goes quite fast.

I have some time perception issues which also makes it harder, but that is a different thing. The point is just to start.

And find one little thing you like that makes you smile. 

Stuart. It makes sense. I've just started a general diary to identify observations - that's a great help. I need to be more patient. You're right with the big things, that comes again for me with impatience. Little things don't sound small and weak they sound like building blocks. If you have a massive block you cant move it and you are unlikely to be able to build anything. Smaller blocks you can and eventually there's a bloody wall (minus the itchy glitter). I thought I didn't have anything that made me smile..... however, my cat just fell off her cardboard scratch mat that is only 2 inches off the ground. The way she fell it was like she's fallen from a first floor window. Have a good weekend.