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Walls with glitter

Mads

You've fought your entire life to get the answer as to why you always felt different.
You get the answer. Hooray! 
Not quite..............................
The realisation hits you in the face, you continue fighting just in a different way.
This isn't a negative, just struck with how many walls I've already overcome. 
Now there are a different set of walls, just this time built with glitter, ND glitter :-)

Any tips for chipping away, obliterating or boring a few holes after a diagnosis?

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  • It's a hard one, one I am still working out. I read some books, but they opened up more questions -like unmasking, when I've tended to want to hide it more than be more open about it. More like hanging pictures on the glittery walls rather than seeing what's on the other side. 

  • in reply to Cinnabar_wing

    Thanks for your thoughts. I feel better just knowing I'm not wading through mud alone. Lets see what happens?! E.g. I had an interview the other day, I was if anything over prepared but during the 2 hrs I went in and out of masking and it completely threw me off the questions. I was frustrated but at least I didn't turn up as my fully masked self. 

  • in reply to Mads

    Been there! I went through a set of interviews where I didn't give enough eye contact, gave too much eye contact, said too much, didn't say enough, gave a 40 minute answer to 'tell me about yourself' and also didn't explain sufficiently why I was the ideal candidate. Interviews are such performative nonsense and the feedback afterwards can turn you inside out. Best to show up as you because otherwise you have be 'masked other you' every day and over time that takes your soul.

  • in reply to leveller61

    Its tiring hearing you describe it let alone when you go through it. Thanks for the reply on this.

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