To diagnose or not to diagnose, that is the question!

Hello all! 

I wondered if I could please get some advice on whether to pursue a diagnosis or not. 

ever since I was a kid I’ve been ‘different’ and ‘weird’ and ‘unusual’ and I’ve always struggled socially (i learned over time how to blend in and communicate well). For some years now I’ve been debating with myself whether I should pursue a diagnosis or not. I’ve spoken with my family and they all believe I show traits. However back when I was 17 (I was having issues with social anxiety and depression) I brought up the possibility of autism with my psychiatrist (CAHMS) and I was immediately dismissed, I wasn’t even allowed time to explain why I thought this or any traits I had. The lady said to me ‘it’s not possible it’s mainly in males’. Ever since then I’ve had a doubt in my mind wether I’m just an anxious and unusual person or if there indeed is some sort of neurodivergence within me.

I’ve been researching and found there are ways to privately get an assessment. I’m now debating if it’s worth me trying. My main concern is that I’m not neurodivergent and then that will lead me to asking so many questions to why I am the way I am. 

I wondered if anyone could share their diagnosis experiences or their stories to help me decide if this is something I should pursue. 

thank you so much! (Female, 25, north east England)

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  • The lady said to me ‘it’s not possible it’s mainly in males’

    Hi maiz450! This bit says it all really, it's really very outdated to say autism is a male thing, so if this is holding you back from bringing it up with your GP, then I think it would be worth it.

    ProfDanger has some really excellent points on why you might or might not consider it, I had no idea of the last one before being diagnosed, though I don't think it's an issue for me.

    Good luck with whatever you decide, but you are still welcome here if you self identify, you don't need a diagnosis to use the forum!

  • Hi Cinnabar_wing! 

    Indeed, it’s nice to know that awareness of autism in females is beginning to develop allowing so many people to understand who they are! 

    I agree with you about profdanger it was very helpful. I also agree with them about ‘imposter syndrome’ I think id rather know than not know! 

    Thank you for your reply and kind words! 

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  • Hi Cinnabar_wing! 

    Indeed, it’s nice to know that awareness of autism in females is beginning to develop allowing so many people to understand who they are! 

    I agree with you about profdanger it was very helpful. I also agree with them about ‘imposter syndrome’ I think id rather know than not know! 

    Thank you for your reply and kind words! 

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