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I've seen your post earlier and have been thinking about what you wrote about your situation, but I'm unsure if I can say anything helpful.

I certainly can't know exactly what is happening with your partner, but I can share a perspective from my own experience.

When I am exhausted and overwhelmed, when everything feels too much and the world is too loud, being with people becomes extremely difficult. I often dissociate, and in that state, showing interest or care requires an immense amount of energy I simply don't have. It can feel like pretending, which is tragic because logically I know I care, but I am temporarily disconnected from the feeling.

In these moments, I might hide from everyone to avoid coming across as cold or failing to meet expectations. The guilt of failing at the relationship makes the burden even heavier. It isn't a rejection of the other person, it is an inability to process myself.

If I could suggest anything, it would be to offer him your presence with zero expectations. Let him know he can be in the same space (or the same digital space) without needing to talk, perform, or play together. If you can become part of his safe space rather than an additional 'demand' on his energy (I'm not saying that you're a demand, but for a system that it's already on its knees, everything seems like an unbridgeable gap/obstacle), it may help him find his way back to you. I hope you find a way through this together.

I've seen your post earlier and have been thinking about what you wrote about your situation, but I'm unsure if I can say anything helpful.

I certainly can't know exactly what is happening with your partner, but I can share a perspective from my own experience.

When I am exhausted and overwhelmed, when everything feels too much and the world is too loud, being with people becomes extremely difficult. I often dissociate, and in that state, showing interest or care requires an immense amount of energy I simply don't have. It can feel like pretending, which is tragic because logically I know I care, but I am temporarily disconnected from the feeling.

In these moments, I might hide from everyone to avoid coming across as cold or failing to meet expectations. The guilt of failing at the relationship makes the burden even heavier. It isn't a rejection of the other person, it is an inability to process myself.

If I could suggest anything, it would be to offer him your presence with zero expectations. Let him know he can be in the same space (or the same digital space) without needing to talk, perform, or play together. If you can become part of his safe space rather than an additional 'demand' on his energy (I'm not saying that you're a demand, but for a system that it's already on its knees, everything seems like an unbridgeable gap/obstacle), it may help him find his way back to you. I hope you find a way through this together.