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Coping with social events

Beech474

Hi everyone, 

So I have been attending some social events recently to hopefully make some new friends. The problem is I always feel so much pressure to speak that I end up being so nervous and not enjoying myself at the events. I don't know how to handle social situations!

Does anyone have any advice about socializing? I always feel like I'm doing the wrong thing and being awkward. 

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  • Hi  

    Great that you’ve been attending social events recently it’s easier said than done so good for you.

    I would say try not to put yourself under too much pressure because most people like to talk about themselves and they love a good listener. So just observe and listen and when you feel comfortable give short responses.

    I try to remember too that we do not appear to others how we have ourselves in our own mind, thank goodness they usually see a much better version of us. (The real one that’s so hard for us to see sometimes)

    Blush

  • in reply to Lonehare12

    I think I always end up talking more than I really want to because I don't want people to think that I am quiet or shy. But I am quiet and quite shy so ahah

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  • in reply to Beech474

    I sometimes get so nervous I talk really fast and apparently too loud and say stupid things in an effort to make small talk. Then lapse back into saying nothing.

    It's quite a tricky skill to get it right really, but hopefully this is a great chance for you to practice those skills and find your happy medium.