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Sharing diagnosis with elderly parents- any advice?

Lemon slice

I think im at the point I'd like to share my diagnosis with my parents, they're in late eighties.

Im off work just now recovering from burnout, they know im off work, have told them im exhausted and work is too stressful but they're now really starting to ask more questions and I think they're worrying about me. Im never normally off work so this is highly unusual.

I think I want to tell them so they wont worry, however, aware they will still worry as they won't understand it all but at least they'll know im not dying! I think how I explain it to them, ie the words I use are important, eg I found out im autistic rather than I got diagnosed. 

I just wondered if anyone had any tips on telling elderly parents. Others in my family already know.

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  • Hi Lemon, that does sound difficult. I can only go off my parents and grand parent. My parents are in their v late 60's and are ok with it as they took part in one part of my assessment. My Nan however is 89 and her response was, 'she was sorry for me'. I agree its likely a generation bias, but I think once you are happy with who you are, (and you are confident in the answers you will give to the q'tions they may have), I hope it will feel easier. Parents will always worry regardless (that doesn't stop you worrying about them worrying about you). G luck.

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  • Hi Lemon, that does sound difficult. I can only go off my parents and grand parent. My parents are in their v late 60's and are ok with it as they took part in one part of my assessment. My Nan however is 89 and her response was, 'she was sorry for me'. I agree its likely a generation bias, but I think once you are happy with who you are, (and you are confident in the answers you will give to the q'tions they may have), I hope it will feel easier. Parents will always worry regardless (that doesn't stop you worrying about them worrying about you). G luck.

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