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Embrace your autism

Larissa

If you've recently just got diagnosed with autism or you believe that you're autistic, my piece of advice to you is to not stop thinking about your autism. Autism isn't one of those things where you can believe you have it or get diagnosed with it and then that's it and you can move on with your life. The fact of the matter is that a lot of your problems come from the fact that you're autistic. And I don't mean to say that in a way of like autism is so horrible and everything, cause I do think that I love my autism. I love that I'm autistic, but I struggle with connections. And I don't struggle with connections because I'm bad at connections. That there's like a personality flaw or that there's some. There's something I'm doing wrong. It's literally a disability. My brain doesn't work in the same way as the people that I want to connect with, and it doesn't allow me to connect to them in the same way that they connect with other people.

This is why thinking about your autism and reminding yourself that your autistic is so important. Because it's so easy to fall back into that pattern of thinking that there is something wrong with you, but there is nothing wrong with you. You are autistic. And although autism is a disability, it is also a beautiful variation of how the mind works. And yes, it comes with it's own challenges but it also comes with so many beautiful things that neurotypicals wouldn't be able to experience. So don't push your autism away. Don't ignore it. Think about it, and embrace it. 

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  • I'm Paul B, & I'm new to this

    I was diagnosed with Autism 3 years ago, after being in the dark through out my life, about being Autistic

    Your post is so inspiring to me, as it says all about what, not just myself, but other people in the same position

    I've been feeling very low recently, & my sister advised me to join this, & I'll be, for the first time, be going to an autistic social evening at a local club, to meet new people, & make new friends, who I can relate to, instead of racking my brain to think of things to say to neurotypicals, instead of being comfortable with people I can relate to

    Thank you for an insipiring post, I hope to be in contact with you, & other autistics to make my journey through life as comfortable as I can

  • in reply to Paulb

    What advice can I get with coping with somebody who is very ungrateful, rude & uninterested in what an Autistic person like me has to contribute to their (so called) friendship

  • in reply to Paulb

    That's tricky. My own response if faced with that, would be to disengage to protect myself.

    An autistic person like you can, I am certain, add a lot of value to the lives of other people who are open to getting to know you.

  • in reply to leveller61

    Distraction makes it difficult to concentrate definitely.  If you need to, you could concentrate on something, then build in reward breaks of a special interest if you get so much of it done. 

    I also like making schedules and lists, and try stick to them, it helps me with time management and ticking off when I do the tasks.

  • in reply to Paulb

    Sensory overload tires me out sometimes without me realising at the time. Controlling attention can be tricky for us, especially if we get interrupted. We are all different but I find turning off sources of distraction and being in a quiet space help me. When I can get into hyperfocus, it feels brilliant.

    What do others here advise?

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  • in reply to Paulb

    Sensory overload tires me out sometimes without me realising at the time. Controlling attention can be tricky for us, especially if we get interrupted. We are all different but I find turning off sources of distraction and being in a quiet space help me. When I can get into hyperfocus, it feels brilliant.

    What do others here advise?

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  • in reply to leveller61

    Distraction makes it difficult to concentrate definitely.  If you need to, you could concentrate on something, then build in reward breaks of a special interest if you get so much of it done. 

    I also like making schedules and lists, and try stick to them, it helps me with time management and ticking off when I do the tasks.