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Embrace your autism

Larissa

If you've recently just got diagnosed with autism or you believe that you're autistic, my piece of advice to you is to not stop thinking about your autism. Autism isn't one of those things where you can believe you have it or get diagnosed with it and then that's it and you can move on with your life. The fact of the matter is that a lot of your problems come from the fact that you're autistic. And I don't mean to say that in a way of like autism is so horrible and everything, cause I do think that I love my autism. I love that I'm autistic, but I struggle with connections. And I don't struggle with connections because I'm bad at connections. That there's like a personality flaw or that there's some. There's something I'm doing wrong. It's literally a disability. My brain doesn't work in the same way as the people that I want to connect with, and it doesn't allow me to connect to them in the same way that they connect with other people.

This is why thinking about your autism and reminding yourself that your autistic is so important. Because it's so easy to fall back into that pattern of thinking that there is something wrong with you, but there is nothing wrong with you. You are autistic. And although autism is a disability, it is also a beautiful variation of how the mind works. And yes, it comes with it's own challenges but it also comes with so many beautiful things that neurotypicals wouldn't be able to experience. So don't push your autism away. Don't ignore it. Think about it, and embrace it. 

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  • Larissa said:
    This is why thinking about your autism and reminding yourself that your autistic is so important. Because it's so easy to fall back into that pattern of thinking that there is something wrong with you, but there is nothing wrong with you. You are autistic. And although autism is a disability, it is also a beautiful variation of how the mind works. And yes, it comes with it's own challenges but it also comes with so many beautiful things that neurotypicals wouldn't be able to experience. So don't push your autism away. Don't ignore it. Think about it, and embrace it. 

    That is a very nice way to say it.

    However, I believe the younger you find out you are autistic the less internalised ableism you will have and can make significant changes or develop coping strategies. For us 'Latelings' we have had many many years of trying to fit in or at least not stick out from the crowd. This is a defence mechanism and can become so natural you don't even know that you are doing it.

    I am 3 years post autistic after over fifty years pre autistic. Thats a lot of masking / trauma to unpick. I try so hard to embrace my autism as a positive thing but sadly at this moment there has been a been a lot of negatives post autistic.

    I am living under a great deal of uncertainty, which for me is tortuous. Once I get some clarity around my employment tribunal (major negative due to discrimination) I might be able to embrace my 'new' life.

    Thanks for trying to put a positive spin and I will try to remember that. 

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  • Larissa said:
    This is why thinking about your autism and reminding yourself that your autistic is so important. Because it's so easy to fall back into that pattern of thinking that there is something wrong with you, but there is nothing wrong with you. You are autistic. And although autism is a disability, it is also a beautiful variation of how the mind works. And yes, it comes with it's own challenges but it also comes with so many beautiful things that neurotypicals wouldn't be able to experience. So don't push your autism away. Don't ignore it. Think about it, and embrace it. 

    That is a very nice way to say it.

    However, I believe the younger you find out you are autistic the less internalised ableism you will have and can make significant changes or develop coping strategies. For us 'Latelings' we have had many many years of trying to fit in or at least not stick out from the crowd. This is a defence mechanism and can become so natural you don't even know that you are doing it.

    I am 3 years post autistic after over fifty years pre autistic. Thats a lot of masking / trauma to unpick. I try so hard to embrace my autism as a positive thing but sadly at this moment there has been a been a lot of negatives post autistic.

    I am living under a great deal of uncertainty, which for me is tortuous. Once I get some clarity around my employment tribunal (major negative due to discrimination) I might be able to embrace my 'new' life.

    Thanks for trying to put a positive spin and I will try to remember that. 

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