Embrace your autism

If you've recently just got diagnosed with autism or you believe that you're autistic, my piece of advice to you is to not stop thinking about your autism. Autism isn't one of those things where you can believe you have it or get diagnosed with it and then that's it and you can move on with your life. The fact of the matter is that a lot of your problems come from the fact that you're autistic. And I don't mean to say that in a way of like autism is so horrible and everything, cause I do think that I love my autism. I love that I'm autistic, but I struggle with connections. And I don't struggle with connections because I'm bad at connections. That there's like a personality flaw or that there's some. There's something I'm doing wrong. It's literally a disability. My brain doesn't work in the same way as the people that I want to connect with, and it doesn't allow me to connect to them in the same way that they connect with other people.

This is why thinking about your autism and reminding yourself that your autistic is so important. Because it's so easy to fall back into that pattern of thinking that there is something wrong with you, but there is nothing wrong with you. You are autistic. And although autism is a disability, it is also a beautiful variation of how the mind works. And yes, it comes with it's own challenges but it also comes with so many beautiful things that neurotypicals wouldn't be able to experience. So don't push your autism away. Don't ignore it. Think about it, and embrace it. 

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  • Thank you for your beautiful post. I wish I could stop thinking about autism, forget it as if I've never realised that. And go back to the point that I just believed I'm inferior to others. I'm exhausted of wondering if it really is autism. In addition I saw a video of one German youtuber, who complained about so many people wanting to be diagnosed with autism,  about so many misdiagnosis,  about private clinics being like shops with diagnoses and everyone wanting to be autistic. And if course all those who themselves suspect,  are wrong. He himself got 5 times the diagnosis,  so it means, he took place and time of 5 clinics, and now says, he is happy, while there are many who struggle and have no chance to get diagnosed even once. So I wrote him that honestly and unsubscribed hus channel. His opinions are often contradictory and generally illogical. He has also comorbid BPD. Maybe that's why. I'm kind of exhausted. If I get diagnosed and join a local support group and hear such things again - fashionable diagnosis,  etc.  Then I don't know what would i do. Maybe tear the paper apart and throw to a bin.

  • I hope you can get a diagnosis soon, and if not for autism, for whatever it is you may be struggling with. I can understand your frustration, I was on the waiting list for years before I got any support. Five times seems a bit excessive, especially as most of us are lucky to be diagnosed once. I understand wanting to be sure, but if every other time before that has been that he is autistic, surely that is enough confirmation. Everyone has a different opinion, but I have to agree with you on this one.

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  • I hope you can get a diagnosis soon, and if not for autism, for whatever it is you may be struggling with. I can understand your frustration, I was on the waiting list for years before I got any support. Five times seems a bit excessive, especially as most of us are lucky to be diagnosed once. I understand wanting to be sure, but if every other time before that has been that he is autistic, surely that is enough confirmation. Everyone has a different opinion, but I have to agree with you on this one.

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