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Feeling like my husband sees my diagnosis is irrelevant

Pumkinpie87

I have recently been diagnosed as an autistic and ADHD individual, all my husband has said is that I can't use my diagnosis as an excuse for anything, now every time it gets mentioned he rolls his eyes and will not let me talk about it. I am overwhelmed about my diagnosis, trying to figure out how much of my history was me masking and what I can do in the future to stop myself going through burnout. I thought he would help me find support but he shuts me out and I feel like I'm stuck. Sorry for the rant but I don't know what to do or where to find support. I also struggle with anxiety and depression, I don't know what to do.

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  • You really need your husbands support right now and you're not getting it, sadly all to common, partners often feel threatened somehow about a diagnosis, like you're a different person to the one you were a minute before being diagnosed.

    Could you start the ball rolling by asking him how he feels about it and why he seems to be thinking that its all a big excuse?

    I think maybe asking your GP for help with depression and anxiety, it will probably be pills of one kind or another, but whilst some don't get on with them, when you do find one that works for you they can be quite liberating, as they seem to lift your ability to be rational to the same level as your ability to be irrational, so you get some balance. You may need to try and couple of different types before you find one that works for you. As others have said a therapist or counsellor would help, even if its a few session whilt you emotionally vomit up all your fears and anxieties, just as with other vomit, it's better out than in.

    We're all here with our various foibles, anxieties, phobias, coping stratagies and general strangeness, so keep posting

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  • You really need your husbands support right now and you're not getting it, sadly all to common, partners often feel threatened somehow about a diagnosis, like you're a different person to the one you were a minute before being diagnosed.

    Could you start the ball rolling by asking him how he feels about it and why he seems to be thinking that its all a big excuse?

    I think maybe asking your GP for help with depression and anxiety, it will probably be pills of one kind or another, but whilst some don't get on with them, when you do find one that works for you they can be quite liberating, as they seem to lift your ability to be rational to the same level as your ability to be irrational, so you get some balance. You may need to try and couple of different types before you find one that works for you. As others have said a therapist or counsellor would help, even if its a few session whilt you emotionally vomit up all your fears and anxieties, just as with other vomit, it's better out than in.

    We're all here with our various foibles, anxieties, phobias, coping stratagies and general strangeness, so keep posting

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