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Feeling like my husband sees my diagnosis is irrelevant

Pumkinpie87

I have recently been diagnosed as an autistic and ADHD individual, all my husband has said is that I can't use my diagnosis as an excuse for anything, now every time it gets mentioned he rolls his eyes and will not let me talk about it. I am overwhelmed about my diagnosis, trying to figure out how much of my history was me masking and what I can do in the future to stop myself going through burnout. I thought he would help me find support but he shuts me out and I feel like I'm stuck. Sorry for the rant but I don't know what to do or where to find support. I also struggle with anxiety and depression, I don't know what to do.

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  • Good morning from America, Pumkinpie87:

    Wow, yeah, that’s a difficult situation. I also have ASD/ADHD/GAD/Depression, so I get that much, but the issue with not having any support from your spouse is something I haven’t dealt with since I was diagnosed. At first before diagnosis my wife wasn’t very supportive of it, but after getting diagnosed she finally saw the signs that pointed towards it. I can imagine that having the medical proof and still being denied any support would be excruciating.

    It sounds as if therapy might be a good option to look into if you haven’t tried that yet. My wife and I have gone through couples therapy and it helped immensely during a time of trial for us. If your husband is against that, hopefully you could at least seek out therapy for yourself.

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  • Good morning from America, Pumkinpie87:

    Wow, yeah, that’s a difficult situation. I also have ASD/ADHD/GAD/Depression, so I get that much, but the issue with not having any support from your spouse is something I haven’t dealt with since I was diagnosed. At first before diagnosis my wife wasn’t very supportive of it, but after getting diagnosed she finally saw the signs that pointed towards it. I can imagine that having the medical proof and still being denied any support would be excruciating.

    It sounds as if therapy might be a good option to look into if you haven’t tried that yet. My wife and I have gone through couples therapy and it helped immensely during a time of trial for us. If your husband is against that, hopefully you could at least seek out therapy for yourself.

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