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Counsellors don’t call

Inah

This is a rant because I don’t know where to go with my emotions right now. I have been trying to find a counsellor to help me explore my autism as I struggle with massive imposter syndrome. I found two therapists through a national official registry who were accredited and sounded good, who were responsive via email arranging initials calls etc But in both cases (the last one just happened today!) they just didn’t call at the arranged time! What’s going on? First time I was annoyed but eventually thought ok perhaps something got in the way (though even after checking in twice, I got no reply, completely ghosted), but now it’s the second time this happened. How is this possible? I feel very ridiculous right now

  • in reply to Inah

    I would of been anxious and angry too, I would of felt massively let down, I'm glad it seems sorted now.

  • in reply to Inah

    This is a good thing to learn from.

    When you are struggling it is very easy to assume you have have done something wrong and that it's your fault. Then to run all sorts of negative thoughts and scenarios through your head.

    Often the truth is much more mundane. It can be hard to see this though. Stress and overload narrows your thinking.

    I'm pleased you made contact and I hope they can help you. You can even talk about this with them. It is by being open about what things cause you problems and frustration that you will come to understand how you work.

  • So turns out the one yesterday got the times wrong, they called eventually and said sorry. I got angry too early because it felt like it’s happening again. With the first one though, there was no number needed, they wanted to send me a link which they never did. never answered my emails or rescheduled/ cancelled etc, just no word of them. Maybe something happened to them after all but yeah quite frustrating 

  • I haven't had problems being contacted by 4 different people, so this sounds a bit strange.

    Have you tried calling your phone, just to make sure it is not on silent mode and there is no call forwarding in place?

    Are you certain you gave them the right number?

    If they call and get no answer they might think you are a time waster and ignore your messages.

    They may be a simple explanation.

  • That is odd, maybe they have a problem with their phone? 

    It's not you, you've done everything right, the problem's at thier end.

  • Whoa, that’s… really odd. The first time is weird enough, but twice? And it doesn’t sound like you’re doing anything wrong.

    Personally, I’d keep trying, but I can understand that this experience would be very off-putting. Surely lightning couldn’t strike thrice?

    And by the way you’re probably already doing this, but try to see if whoever you are contacting has experience with Autism. That could be really helpful since one of the things you wish to bring up is imposter syndrome.