Confused after diagnosis

I just had my diagnosis call with Psychiatry UK who said I have autistic traits but not ASD. While I've been reading about autism over the last couple of years, I felt like I'd finally understood why I find life hard and find humans so confusing, and was really hopeful that finding I had ASD might give me the key to managing to sustain a relationship - but now that I don't have that diagnosis I feel absolutely lost, like there's no chance for me with relationships and I must just be bad at them. 

I don't understand it because I seem to have every symptom / characteristic they consider, but I guess not "enough". I feel like I failed the assessment. Like I'd finally found my people, but I haven't made the grade and now I can't join. I almost wish I'd stuck with self-identification. 

My sister was recently diagnosed with ASD and is now getting lots of support from friends and family, and people are taking her needs seriously, and I feel like now I can't voice my needs in the way that she is because I didn't get a diagnosis. 

If you only have autistic traits but not ASD, can you still get support from an autistic community? 

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  • Hi and welcome to the community. 

    just had my diagnosis call with Psychiatry UK

    I'm just wondering - was that a voice or video call? Maybe they didn't pick things up that they could in a face to face assessment, or maybe you mask too well and the assessor isn't skilled at seeing through masking.

    I'm not formally diagnosed, I'm self discovered and identify as autistic, and I've been on this forum almost 9 years. So yes, you can get support here. Ask us any other questions you have and we'll do our best to help. I hope that being on this forum helps you.

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  • Hi and welcome to the community. 

    just had my diagnosis call with Psychiatry UK

    I'm just wondering - was that a voice or video call? Maybe they didn't pick things up that they could in a face to face assessment, or maybe you mask too well and the assessor isn't skilled at seeing through masking.

    I'm not formally diagnosed, I'm self discovered and identify as autistic, and I've been on this forum almost 9 years. So yes, you can get support here. Ask us any other questions you have and we'll do our best to help. I hope that being on this forum helps you.

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