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Burnout back after just getting better

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Im 53, been diagnosed 8 months, hit burnout at start Dec there when told work, was off for full month. Went back 4 weeks ago on phased return and just built up to full time hours the other day. My work have been good, but just middle of last week it got really busy, ive got quite a demanding job and they said I wouldn't get any new cases just now. We've now got biggest case in years and everyone else who does my role is already so busy so im doing tgis new case with assistance. Last night knew wasnt good , today been unable to move from bed. I feel so deflated this has happened again when I'd built myself up slowly the last month. Sorry, I think i just needed to get that out. Can anyone relate? 

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  •   has explained this well already and the resources are there from   .

    I can relate yes.  I can I believe empathise, And if OK I would like to maybe also ask how you are doing now?

      has alluded to "just about coping" - In my case I have changed the wording in retrospective analysis to "living in survival mode".  Rationally, living thus is possible and necessary for brief periods however normalising it, from my experience, is a fore-runner of burnout.

    In similar circumstances I found it difficult to be objective in comparative terms to to my actual capacity for tolerance of environment, events and circumstances and my personal capability within them.

    Perhaps the reason why I respond is to gently provoke you to consider researching and considering "interoception" as well as my caring about a fellow autistic person by relating my experience to you.

    Personally I had become so normalised to the internal state of my body in "survival mode".  The insensitivity to which I found led to the "crashes" of physical and mental capability where withdrawal and absolute rest - such as an inability to rise from bed.  I found being incapable in this way also meant I was unable to engage in such physical and mental activity that might allow escape from ruminative mental "stuckness" too.

    As well as the double empathy problem that relates to autistic people and neurotypical I would also propose there is the third empathy issue.  That an autistic person, possible in connection with masking for so long, one can lose or indeed not develop one's own self awareness.

    I personally have found that developing skills in interoception have helped me find the connection between my mind and my body to help me understand my needs and my feelings better.  This was hard because it first required me to allow myself to acknowledge pain and distress when my capacity to deal with it was not very good.  However this was why it was there in the first place.

    I think that for these reasons your making the post maybe means that you are acknowledging the issue.  By asking how other people relate you are seeking support and understanding.  There then comes the skill of developing personal insights and capabilities to a life that reflects your values and needs such that one is no longer in survival mode or just coping.  This is a beginning to sensing a possibility of and engaging with thriving perhaps.

    Best Wishes

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  •   has explained this well already and the resources are there from   .

    I can relate yes.  I can I believe empathise, And if OK I would like to maybe also ask how you are doing now?

      has alluded to "just about coping" - In my case I have changed the wording in retrospective analysis to "living in survival mode".  Rationally, living thus is possible and necessary for brief periods however normalising it, from my experience, is a fore-runner of burnout.

    In similar circumstances I found it difficult to be objective in comparative terms to to my actual capacity for tolerance of environment, events and circumstances and my personal capability within them.

    Perhaps the reason why I respond is to gently provoke you to consider researching and considering "interoception" as well as my caring about a fellow autistic person by relating my experience to you.

    Personally I had become so normalised to the internal state of my body in "survival mode".  The insensitivity to which I found led to the "crashes" of physical and mental capability where withdrawal and absolute rest - such as an inability to rise from bed.  I found being incapable in this way also meant I was unable to engage in such physical and mental activity that might allow escape from ruminative mental "stuckness" too.

    As well as the double empathy problem that relates to autistic people and neurotypical I would also propose there is the third empathy issue.  That an autistic person, possible in connection with masking for so long, one can lose or indeed not develop one's own self awareness.

    I personally have found that developing skills in interoception have helped me find the connection between my mind and my body to help me understand my needs and my feelings better.  This was hard because it first required me to allow myself to acknowledge pain and distress when my capacity to deal with it was not very good.  However this was why it was there in the first place.

    I think that for these reasons your making the post maybe means that you are acknowledging the issue.  By asking how other people relate you are seeking support and understanding.  There then comes the skill of developing personal insights and capabilities to a life that reflects your values and needs such that one is no longer in survival mode or just coping.  This is a beginning to sensing a possibility of and engaging with thriving perhaps.

    Best Wishes

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